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Originally posted by Annee
reply to post by DrChuck
Fair enough.
I agree with the OP and Wayno. I think you can be friendly - - but I don't think you can be a true friend of a gay person - - if there is any "but" directly in regards to them being gay.
You keep saying its not about their sexuality. And I agree. Its about gays being normal and natural as they are born.
Why do you keep using the term sexuality?
Originally posted by DrChuck
That's where I disagree. There are a million "buts" in any friendships. But when you say that I can't be a true friend with a gay person because I don't like homosexuality, your only looking at the homosexuality part of the person.
Originally posted by Annee
Like I said - - my mom had polio - - before the Disability Act - - a business could refuse to let her enter - - just because she made other customers uncomfortable. And YES - - this did happen more then once.
I do not know what it is to be gay - - but I do know what discrimination and inequality is - - and how it feels.
Originally posted by Resurrectio
reply to post by theRhenn
Just shut up!! You made a very stupid comment and now are trying to fall back on some philosophical reasoning.
You wrote a sentence, not quoting anyone. You realized how ignorant your comment was, and came back for damage control... And... In true sociopath form you'll state something along the lines of " I dont care what you think I meant"... If you didn't, you wouldn't be here posting!
Thats where I disagree. There are a million "buts" in any friendships. But when you say that I can't be a true friend with a gay person because I don't like homosexuality, your only looking at the homosexuality part of the person.
Originally posted by theRhenn
Neither side should overstep the others boundaries and things they hold sacred. Same as marriage. To many it's a holy thing, and a very sacred thing. If they believe by the bible, the GOD of those words, then there is a conflict.
Implying that a gay man, because he likes men, is more of a risk to your son that a straight man, and likewise with a straight man with your daughter, is ABSURD!!
Dr. Carole Jenny was the director of the Child Advocacy and Protection Team at Denver's Childrens Hospital, and she also directed medical programs at the C. Henry Kempe National Center for the Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse and Neglect. Dr. Jenny and her colleagues reviewed 269 medical records of Denver-area children who were sexually abused by adults. Of 50 male children, 37 (74%) were molested by men who had been in a heterosexual relationship with the child’s relative. Three were molested by women, five were molested by both parents, and three others were molested by non-relatives. Only one perpetrator could be identified as being possibly homosexual in his adult behavior.23
"In 1992, alarmed over claims made during a campaign for an anti-gay state constitutional amendment in Colorado, two physicians reviewed every case of suspected child molestation evaluated at Children's Hospital in Denver over a one-year period. Of the 269 cases determined to involve molestation by an adult, only two of the perpetrators could be identified as gay or lesbian. The researchers concluded that the risk of child sexual abuse by an identifiably gay or lesbian person was between zero and 3.1%, and that the risk of such abuse by the heterosexual partner of a relative was over 100 times greater.[8]"
Source(s):
www.robincmiller.com...
Originally posted by wayno
reply to post by DrChuck
Thats where I disagree. There are a million "buts" in any friendships. But when you say that I can't be a true friend with a gay person because I don't like homosexuality, your only looking at the homosexuality part of the person.
DrChuck, there are some "buts" that supercede all the other factors that go into friendship.
A person who "disagrees" with or "dislikes homosexuality also cannot be a true friend to me so long as they believe those views. How could they be if they hold such negtive views about something that is such a central, part of me? My sexual preference is only one part of who I am, but it is a biggee. It probably doesn't matter for work, family, recreation and many facets of life, but it does matter for friendship.
Originally posted by DrChuck
A true friend accepts all of you whether he likes all of you or not, . . .
Holding negative views, yet fully accepting the entire person as they are is entirely possible. I accept my friends sexual orientation, . . .
Originally posted by Annee
Originally posted by DrChuck
A true friend accepts all of you whether he likes all of you or not, . . .
Holding negative views, yet fully accepting the entire person as they are is entirely possible. I accept my friends sexual orientation, . . .
Fully accept all of you - - - would mean fully accepting a person as gay.
Accepting your friends sexual orientation.
I don't think this is what you said or implied previously.