Originally posted by maus80
Throws a HUGE fit in public? Back away slowly, let them do their thing. Kicking, screaming, and stomping is a healthy, passive way for kids to
vent their emotions. Once they are done point out to them they what they did was silly, and didn't get them what they wanted.
Ah, kiddies and their tantrums ...
My daughter first threw a tantrum when she was only 6 months old. - Threw herself on her back on the floor and kicked and screamed, glaring at me. So
I picked her up, took her into my bedroom and popped her onto my double bed, walked out and shut the door.
She carried on for an hour, and I just left her to it, not going back in there until she was quiet again. She never threw a tantrum again.
Raising 3 kids on my own after having such bad parenting myself I'd had to run away from home at 16 to stop getting beaten and worse, I had no idea
how to be a parent. So my kids got smacked occasionally and sometimes I'd go right off and "whoop" them, but it was not a good thing to do, for me
Luckily we were also friends, and all managed to learn about hugging and reasoning and empathy. Now they are great adults, intelligent and gentle, and
knowing much more about parenting than I did at their age.
My daughter decided to never smack her little girl, and learned to teach about consequences instead. Trouble was she was too gentle, worked too hard
to make her kid happy, and it all went wrong. There are some kids who need discipline, and this was one of them.
I accidentally whacked my granddaughter (on her nappied bum) when she was only 8 months old, when she started hitting my son, who hqd a migraine, on
the head, because he was resting it on my knee and she thought she owned my knee. She howled and crawled to the door, scowling furiously at me between
bellows. I figured if there was one thing worse than smacking a baby it was saying sorry, so I put her on the couch out the front until she stopped.
For years after that she was a little angel for me. If she started playing up I'd just remind her she liked to be good for me, and she would be. My
daughter couldn't work out why I never had to smack her after that, while she ended up smacking lots.
Once I was in town with my granddaughter and she threw herself down on the pavement, outside Myer in Melbourne, kicking and hollerring.
I knew how to fix that fast, this kid was very concerned about impressing people. So I threw myself down beside her, copying her behaviour (after
putting my basket carefully between us).
She stopped her carry on, stood up and started tugging at me.
"Ooma, stop that, people are looking at us. You look silly doing that."
I laughed and agreed with her that people throwing tantrums do look silly, and asked if she'd learned not to yet, or if I needed to do it
She never threw a tantrum again and people threw enough money in my basket to buy a nice lunch each.