posted on Jul, 19 2011 @ 12:41 PM
Originally posted by Amaterasu
Originally posted by unityemissions
I appreciate your view, but think it's a bit flawed and out-dated. I think "punks" are more a result of collective pressures. It's a societal problem,
not a familial one. Feed their mind with what interests them, and they will grow wise and successful.
Here, my friend, you are SOOO correct. I bolded the part that is especially true.
My book uses this fact, in part, and would be honored if you would read it. It's linked in my sig.
Above is what You replied to...
Originally posted by SmArTbEaTz
reply to post by Amaterasu
Try telling that to the many families that have been killed by their own kids!
You make this sound as if this problem runs rampant. Given the number of times I have heard of kids killing Their family members, I would recon that
at most, one incident a year is a bit high on pegging the average.
Given this, and presuming seventy five million families in the US - with 300 million people, this is a good approximation, I'm guessing - that makes
for a VERY small percentage. Statistically speaking, NIL.
Not so many, actually. And this then suggests that such problems are an aberration, not even remotely a norm. And no, One cannot solve EVERY problem
100%. Aberrations will still appear.
I whoop my daughter sometimes, but I explain to her why she got whooped and I do not yell at her. She does not do timeout crap, and I feel it's
foolish to send your child to a corner for something bad they did... and will continue to do as soon as they get out of the corner. You have to
explain to them why they got in trouble and punish them so they remember. If I tickled my kid for hitting my dog with a stick... what is that teaching
them? That's it's funny??? So what are you going to do when they steal your car with a friend when they get older? Is that a time out too? Maybe when
they drain your bank account for drugs and pawn your valuables you might understand what SOME parents go through.
Y'know, I suspect that MY child would do none of those things. But I cannot answer the questions because a great deal more about the situation - Our
relationship, number of times the behavior has been manifest, and so on - to come up with a strategy. As for tickling... Believe Me, just because
there is laughter involved, does not mean the experience is enjoyable, desired, and sending any "funny" message. Most children avoid being tickled
like the plague.
I explain the rules, consequences for not following the rules, and follow through on them. So are you still calling ME lazy?
I'm calling no One lazy here. Why do You ask?
Walk a mile in person's shoes before you cast judgement...
I walked many such miles. I have a child.
edit on 7/19/2011 by Amaterasu because: I failed tags again.