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Originally posted by Amaterasu
Originally posted by Jomina
In the times I have ever done anything physically related to my kiddos, it's been in that kind of vein.
And like I said, any immediate danger can warrant awareness of the danger being made impactfully.
I have issues with hitting children when they are just saying "no." (If you know what I mean.) There are other, more effective routes than beating on the flesh.
Originally posted by Amaterasu
Y'know... When I was a wee one (around 2ish), I was told not to stick things in sockets. But that was not the end of it. I was told not to, and then... I was told WHY. My dad made it very clear that the sockets were a danger and how they were. I got a good picture
Originally posted by aorAki
It really heartening to see people defending their right to physically and emotionally abuse their children.
Good way to propagate the cycle of violence that we appear to be locked into.
It smacks (lol) of laziness, in all honesty, but if that's what you want to do and you think you have a good argument for it (I don't think you do) then you are going to continue regardless.
Originally posted by Amaterasu
I still can't see a reason to ever resort to violent behavior. [shrug] I just can't.
Originally posted by Jomina
Perhaps you should go through and see what everyone says about it. Some I agree with, some I do not. Just as with EVERY SINGLE THING OUT THERE, there are extremists on both sides of this issue.
Seems to be, so far, a pretty reasonable open conversation about the subject, though.
Originally posted by Amaterasu
Originally posted by drsmooth23
reply to post by Amaterasu
If i do something that ACTUALLY WARRANTS BEING CORRECTED, then bring it on I say.
If you read my statement and used critical thinking you would realize i mean it should always be the LAST RESORT
I still can't see a reason to ever resort to violent behavior. [shrug] I just can't.
Originally posted by TurkeyBurgers
You can have tough love without using physical violence.
Originally posted by unityemissions
If I so choose to have kids one day, I will respect them. In doing so, they will hopefully respect me. I remember being a kid and getting whipped with the belt. It just encouraged me to not only continue, but to increase my mishaps.
Physical abuse, emotional abuse...it's still abuse. Treat you kid as an equal, and they will love you and respect you dearly. At least, this is my thought. I remember seeing my friends whose parents allowed them to make mistakes, but gently guided them when there voice was wanted. These were the most successful, and happy friends I had.
I appreciate your view, but think it's a bit flawed and out-dated. I think "punks" are more a result of collective pressures. It's a societal problem, not a familial one. Feed their mind with what interests them, and they will grow wise and successful.
To love is to accept entirely, both the correct and incorrect choices. I choose to love.
New age, ya think? Whatever. The labels are meaningless, IMHO.
Originally posted by aorAki
It really heartening to see people defending their right to physically and emotionally abuse their children.
Good way to propagate the cycle of violence that we appear to be locked into.
It smacks (lol) of laziness, in all honesty, but if that's what you want to do and you think you have a good argument for it (I don't think you do) then you are going to continue regardless.
Originally posted by aorAki
Originally posted by TurkeyBurgers
You can have tough love without using physical violence.
I absolutely agree with you. +1
It's amazing how many people say they wouldn't hit their dog (as you shouldn't) ,but have no qualms about smacking their kids....
hmmmm