However, "leadership skills" does sound like a eumpehmism for learning how to manipulate people
Maybe masonic orders are seen as manipulative-I don't know much about them, but otherwise on the topic of leadership and manipulation I'd have to
take exception here as I've been trained and have trained others in leadership, and while sometimes it does include some "manipluation" if you want
to call it that, I don't think of it as an exclusively derogatory term.
To manipulate does not always mean to control, nor to control by unfair means or for unfair results. It can also mean quite literally to handle
skillfully.
Often people need some direction, motivation and " skillful handling" so that a goal can be pursued and achieved.
All you need to see is cases like have been discussed here in negative light to know there is NEED for good leadership.
In my military and civilian poisitons as well as my role as a parent I've been in leadership roles and taught others how to develop leadership
quaities and how to motivate people to meet goals by showing them the direct benefit to them in so doing, by sometimes manipulating them (skillful
handling) and by example
Leadership by example being my favorite integrity/accountability driven role of all.
But even just as head of my family...I must sometimes manipulate...but I am not trying to control my children, especially not by unfair means or
unfair purpose or teach them to follow blindly or not to think...
... in contrast I am trying to skillfully lead them to learn to think for themselves, while still achieving the end result I desire... that they do
what is best/right/beneficial but that they do it by realizing it is what needs to be done and why for themselves. It's an art
Maybe I don't express it well and I am sure many of you would think I would be the blind leading the blind as I seem niether intelligent nor
articualte-certainly not in comparrsion to most of you, but I assure you I haven't always been so seeminlgy simple even if I was a "punk" in the
80's haha...but thanks to the likes of GW1 I have a been a bit on the declining side mentally for 15 years now. (kids don't help either-those grey
hairs are dead brain cells in my case!) so just bear with me-at least I have the guts to try to express myself still, right?