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eletheia
reply to post by EarthCitizen07
So therefor that does away with the reasons put forward for rape?? eg.
# Provocative clothing?
# Being in the wrong place at the wrong time?
# Slutty behaviour? (what ever that may be ...LOL)
# Having too much to drink?
Seems as if some men just feel an entitlement!?
eletheia
reply to post by EarthCitizen07
Hmmmmnn..... Looks to me like you're one of the "She asked for it" brigade
"Provocative" is subjective - one man's provocative is another's charming or
glamorous.
source
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim. Here are some interesting facts :
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing . They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m. And 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two: Are office parking lots/garages. Number three: Are public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense tactics he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
UnifiedSerenity
My condolences to you my friend, and I have my own stories to tell. I don't pull punches with my girls. Women need to be a lot smarter. If girls want free easy sex, fine. But if girls don't, then don't act like a whore.
Please, provide a single example of when a woman could be asking for rape. An example of someone who is at fault because someone else decided it was ok to force themselves on her. An example of a time when a woman could say 'no', and a man could say 'too bad', and that is the woman's fault.
Sometimes women do ask for it.
captaintyinknots
reply to post by EarthCitizen07
Please, provide a single example of when a woman could be asking for rape. An example of someone who is at fault because someone else decided it was ok to force themselves on her. An example of a time when a woman could say 'no', and a man could say 'too bad', and that is the woman's fault.
Sometimes women do ask for it.
You are a prime example of why this education in needed.
Pretty much as I expected. Hate to break it to ya, but even if the act of intercourse has already begun, if one partner says 'stop', and the other partner refuses, that is rape.
When a women goes out of her way to lead on a man and at the last moment changes her mind. Could be alcholol or drugs involved or confusion on her part.
I assume you mean a false accusation of rape? How does that mean a person asked for it?
. It could also be a slander attempt on purpose.
So partaking in any sexual activity means the woman now HAS to have sex? She has no choice? What planet are you on?
When they are in bed and its taken for granted they both like each other.
Ok? What does this have to do with anything?
I have been turned down during the kissing part but not after that.
Im sure...except when she is asking for it, right? Honestly, you really are a prime example of why this education is needed. You go out of your way to defend rapists, to justify it, to blame a victim, then follow up with "but i wouldnt force anyone". YOU are part of the problem. YOU are part of the culture that causes all of this. I hope you dont have a son, and if you do, I really hope you dont teach him that "its ok to rape a girl, if shes asking for it".
And I am not one who forces sex so save me your loaded opinions.
Sure they are. That still NEVER gives anyone a right to rape someone.
In fact relationships need their time to advance naturally. But the one night stands are different and risky.
but even if the act of intercourse has already begun, if one partner says 'stop', and the other partner refuses, that is rape.