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Originally posted by smyleegrl
For those of you suggesting martial arts.....
True story. Last year we decided to enroll him in martial arts for all the typical reasons. Since we live in a very small town, there is only one martial arts studio within easy driving distance, and they won't enroll until age 7.
So I went online and did a google search for martial arts academies in a nearby city (Martinsville, VA). It would be an hour's drive, but we were willing.
The academy sounded perfect and they were enrolling five year olds. We were invited to bring our son to the school for a free trial session to see if he would like it. So, as soon as the school bell rang, we piled in the car and headed towards Martinsville.
Now, I am extremely directionally challenged. I get lost in grocery stores, I kid you not. So of course I programmed the address into the GPS and off we went.
We arrived at the spot, according to the GPS....only it was a vacant parking lot. Confused, I called the academy and asked for directions.
For the next twenty minutes the secretary and I exchanged phone calls while I followed her directions. I never found the academy.
At last, frustrated and twenty minutes late, I said we'd come the following week.
That's when the secretary hesitantly asked what state I was in. I told her Virginia.
That's when she told me the academy was located in Martinsville, INDIANA.
Originally posted by LastStarfighter
Another option would be to use all the time you spend developing your ats persona on interacting with your child.
Originally posted by pheonix358
Hi Smyleegrl,
I have dealt with a child like this. I will offer a few ideas. These are just things to try and see if they make a difference. If they do, reply or PM.
To handle the rages try using physical strength and smother him in a cuddle. At the same time using short calming words like "Calm, Mommy loves you." Repeat until he calms down. Every motion you use should be to calm him.
Look up link and study the symptoms list. Your son may have this at a much heightened level.
The rages may be caused by an inability to communicate and boredom. To put it another way his mind is working at 100mph and his body is giving him 10mph. It is pure frustration.
Hugs, cuddles and love. He will be a handful, be close to him around other children.
If any of the above is close, try to engage his imagination. Just because he can't read, does not mean he does not understand. Try reading something like The Hobbit to him, see if he seems to understand. You really need to assess what his mind is capable of. Try reading the section on The Shire and sit him down and ask him to go for a walk in The Shire in his mind. Observe to see if he can do this.
Most professionals will just want to attach a label and then deal with him in a fixed category. This is very wrong, and often destructive.
If I could send you emotional strength I would. If I am on the right track I have lots more. I am more than happy to help just remember that this is very difficult due to our communication method. If this is not helping then keep searching for answers. Someone has a son just like yours and loves him just as much and has been where you are now.
Pedit on 27/3/2013 by pheonix358 because: (no reason given)
It would be like you donating an hour a week of one on one teaching to help out a special needs child. If you knew it would help and the family could not afford it, you would not hesitate, would you?