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posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 05:52 PM
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Not really a rant per se, but I need to talk about this.

Right now, I'm looking at my incredible 6 year old son, and I fear for him.

My son has a host of problems. He's incredibly small for his age; he's so small, in fact, that he's not even on the growth charts. Although he will turn seven in a little more than a month, he's about the size of an average four year old. We take him twice a year to the endocrinologist, who is monitoring his growth and want us to consider human growth hormone. We can't afford it, so right now it's not an option (and I don't know that we would do it even if we could).

He has a lazy eye, and must wear an eye patch for six hours a day. This has been ongoing for two years, and he hates it. Making him wear it is an ongoing battle.

This is his second year in kindergarten, I demanded he be retained last year. Last year was terrible....his behavior underwent a drastic transformation. He would fly into rages, sometimes throwing furniture or hurting others.

We had him evaluated by countless doctors and therapists. Occupational therapy decided he has sensory input issues, and I agree with them. He cannot handle loud noises, crowds, chaos, etc. The OT put him on a "sensory diet" to limit the amount of stimulation he's exposed too, and he's made a lot of progress.


Academically, he's great in math. I can give him a two step word problem and he can calculate the answer mentally faster than most kids could using paper and pencil. His reading....not so good. Part of this is because he has speech issues, mispronouncing sounds when you're learning to read is extremely challenging.

He was having a better year, but this past week we've seen a return in the hair-trigger rages and violent behavior. I've charted his rages but can find no common trigger.

We are taking him to a developmental specialist on Monday, I hope we can find a way to help him.

My heart is breaking....my wonderful, precious child is struggling with all these issues and I don't know how to help him.

Thanks for letting me vent, ATS.




posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 05:57 PM
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The rages are a sign of mental illness but not specifically a given symptom. Think of it this way, if you were forced to write with your less dominant hand, had a time limit, and if you were going to be judged violently for it, what would your range of emotions be? Panic? Disgust? Anger? Often children with "exceptionalities (I don't really like that term personally ) " undergo a cluster of these emotions because they're not on par with the norm and so get frustrated.

I can't say exactly what your son has as I am not licensed to say so, but I wish you all of the best and help in the world for your beautiful child. I hope that things are fine for you in the future.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 05:59 PM
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Hang in there Smyleegrl. You sound like a wonderful Mother and are doing all you can.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:00 PM
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Smylee I and many other here think we know you a little and I for one can tell you are a great Mum and just a decent human being.
You worry for your son like we all worry but he has a long time to grow and develop, I was born after around 29/28 weeks and so I was tiny at school same as your son, I also had a heart condition which my mum unknowingly scared me through her worrying but as I grew I became better and in the end turned out not to bad.
As long as you love him all will be good and I will use the force to try and give him a little bit of Monkey power
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Eye patch at 6 OMG I would have loved that as a kid.
Anyhoose take care and all the best you and your son will be just fine

Oh and If you need out just PM me

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posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:01 PM
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Embrace the things that make him different! Take his strengths and build on them........

Smiley........what is normal??????

Would some of our greatest minds even exist if they lived in todays society or would they be institutionalized?

It seems to me that society today is hell bent on forcing people who are different into conforming OR they have a problem!

He could be a genius, but he might not ever realize his potential, if you force him to be normal.......



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:05 PM
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This sounds like Autism, Smyleegrl.

Don't be afraid of it, if it is.

You are a good person, I have read a lot of your posts.

You will deal with this.

It will make you a better person.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:09 PM
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Originally posted by Theflyingweldsman
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This sounds like Autism, Smyleegrl.

Don't be afraid of it, if it is.

You are a good person, I have read a lot of your posts.

You will deal with this.

It will make you a better person.




I was going to try to PROD in that direction but I've also learned that you shouldn't try to aim at ANY mental illness unless it fits all five of the DSM criteria for mental illness.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:10 PM
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My heart breaks for you. Just give that little guy lots and lots and lots of love -- as I know you do.

I don't have any answers - I wish I did. Have you tried food changes, i.e., gluten/dairy/sugar-free? I have heard of kids having emotional issues that got basically cured with eliminating these things from their diet.

My thoughts are with you, as a fellow mom.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:14 PM
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Emotional issues I can agree with because of changes in hormone levels, nutrients, etc. But if it is something more serious (like Autism) , then there have been studies to show that dietary changes have no effect on it unfortunately.


Still hoping that someone can get to the bottom of this to help your son, OP.
Hope that things turn out positively for you but remember that no matter what happens, he needs a bountiful supply of love.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:17 PM
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I was going to try to PROD in that direction but I've also learned that you shouldn't try to aim at ANY mental illness unless it fits all five of the DSM criteria for mental illness.

I think that the DSM criteria is a scam.

Autism is NOT a mental Illness.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:18 PM
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I agree with the others here, you're a great mom. I'm sorry you're worrying so much


What does your son say when you ask about him getting angry? I can't imagine what the poor little thing is going through. The only thing I can relate to is the speech disorder, it was an articulation disorder for me but it got much better with speech therapy. Given time he could get much better too, maybe trying to get him to read math related things?

Also, is the eye patch a regular one? Maybe having someone make him a custom one with a design of his choice could encourage him to wear it.

I don't really know what to say, only that you've got my support and I'm here for you.

*Lots of hugs for you and the little one*



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:22 PM
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Thanks everyone for the kind words.

I've considered autism, he does have some of the characteristics. But he also lacks a lot of the major criteria....for example, he loves to snuggle, hug, be loved on, etc. He also will look people in the eye and can understand and empathize with others...

If he has autism, he's obviously very high functioning.

His imagination is incredible, he loves telling stories and they are usually elaborate. We encourage this as much as possible. Plus a lot of what he says is Hilarious.

I just hate seeing him hurt like this.

Thanks again, my friends.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:22 PM
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Your doing everything you can as a good mother would. Wish you and your son the best. I'm sure it's trying, just keep in mind he will grow his own wings in a short 10 years or so.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:24 PM
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Hi Smyleegrl,

I have dealt with a child like this. I will offer a few ideas. These are just things to try and see if they make a difference. If they do, reply or PM.

To handle the rages try using physical strength and smother him in a cuddle. At the same time using short calming words like "Calm, Mommy loves you." Repeat until he calms down. Every motion you use should be to calm him.

Look up link and study the symptoms list. Your son may have this at a much heightened level.

The rages may be caused by an inability to communicate and boredom. To put it another way his mind is working at 100mph and his body is giving him 10mph. It is pure frustration.

Hugs, cuddles and love. He will be a handful, be close to him around other children.

If any of the above is close, try to engage his imagination. Just because he can't read, does not mean he does not understand. Try reading something like The Hobbit to him, see if he seems to understand. You really need to assess what his mind is capable of. Try reading the section on The Shire and sit him down and ask him to go for a walk in The Shire in his mind. Observe to see if he can do this.

Most professionals will just want to attach a label and then deal with him in a fixed category. This is very wrong, and often destructive.

If I could send you emotional strength I would. If I am on the right track I have lots more. I am more than happy to help just remember that this is very difficult due to our communication method. If this is not helping then keep searching for answers. Someone has a son just like yours and loves him just as much and has been where you are now.

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posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:35 PM
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Originally posted by Myomistress
But if it is something more serious (like Autism) , then there have been studies to show that dietary changes have no effect on it unfortunately.

I believe that most are aware by now that most scientific "studies" are nothing more than dis-info put out by the medical inquisition in order to further Agenda 21.

If it's in the mainstream, you can almost count on it.

Mainstream science and medicine have been subverted and have completely lost all credibility.


Originally posted by RogerT
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posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:44 PM
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My prayers are with you and your son. I am sorry you have this on your plate, find strength in this if you can.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:46 PM
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Originally posted by smyleegrl

My heart is breaking....my wonderful, precious child is struggling with all these issues and I don't know how to help him.



I think you are a very good and wonderful parent...and you are helping your child by taking him to medical professionals etc. I was just wondering if recently he may have eaten some of the foods he is not supposed to eat...at school; maybe a school friend gave him the (some of the no foods).




posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:50 PM
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That's what I'm wondering. I've even read that artificial food dyes can cause emotional disturbances in children, like aggressiveness and destructive behavior. Unfortunately, food dyes are in practically everything we eat that isn't a whole food.



posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 06:54 PM
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Originally posted by rockymcgilicutty
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Hang in there Smyleegrl. You sound like a wonderful Mother and are doing all you can.


I second that hun...

You got what it takes... I think patients is the key




posted on Mar, 27 2013 @ 07:47 PM
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Sorry to hear how things are going Smylee. I was wondering, just thinking out loud really, but what does he like to do for fun? As far as struggling with reading, maybe you can make a game out of it, or possibly link it to an activity he enjoys. Of course there's the old tried and true Sesame Street ("Today's letter is... R!). Anyway, just a thought. I imagine you've already done all this, but I figured I'd try to help.






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