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Originally posted by Charmed707
Originally posted by paxnatus
Tell me something, In may case, where I awoke to find the attacker crouched at the foot of my bed, what could I have done.
I mentioned AVOIDING certain situations. This involves logical decision making. Obviously you can't consciously avoid a stranger breaking in while you're sleeping. I guess it's too much to expect people to be able to tell the difference between being aggressively victimized and walking into a situation.
Being the victim of rape most certainly is glamorized...and it's sickening. There are T-shirts that say something along the lines of 'I was raped'. You always hear the term 'rape survivor', when no one has ever died from being raped. Rape is a violent act that often puts one in a dangerous, life-threatening position- but I rarely hear the term 'assault survivor' or 'robbery survivor'. 'Rape survivor' is used so often that it has become a cliche. Victims of rape are emphasized much more than victims of other crimes. Being a 'rape survivor' certainly seems the en vogue thing to be in these current times.
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
Protip: PEOPLE MAKE STUPID CHOICES. Everyone. You, me, the other readers here, Every single adult has made a bad choice at some point in their life. YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL. If you believe that you haven't ever made some kind of bad choice, then you're delusional.
People know the dangers, but even at that - until you can accurately predict the future, you can't avoid the dangers by "making choices".
Sounds like you're a bit jealous of the attention victims get.
Anger rape
The aim of this rapist is to humiliate, debase and hurt their victim; they express their contempt for their victim through physical violence and profane language. For these rapists, sex is a weapon to defile and degrade the victim, rape constitutes the ultimate expression of their anger. This rapist considers rape the ultimate offense they can commit against the victim.
Anger rape is characterized by physical brutality, much more physical force is used during the assault than would be necessary if the intent were simply to overpower the victim and achieve penetration. This type of offender attacks their victim by grabbing, striking and knocking the victim to the ground, beating them, tearing their clothes, and raping them.
The experience for the offender is one that is of conscious anger and rage. [1]
After all it appears from reading here, it is a womans' responsibility to not make herself attractive to rape. Rather than educating people on the rights of others.
Originally posted by James1982
reply to post by zazzafrazz
Simply saying that a woman has options and it's possible to protect herself doesn't in ANY way blame the victim.
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
reply to post by James1982
Except that Charm is arguing that if a person is raped - they made a bad decision somewhere and therefor are to be blamed.
Planning, preparation and educating one's self about the patterns of sexual predators, and how-to avoid them, is not a 100% fool-proof system of defense, because predators can - and do - slip past these defense mechanisms to get to their prey. There's no way to 100% predict what a irrational person is capable of doing, and as i've stated before - unless a person can foresee the future, then not all attacks can be avoided.
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
Except that Charm is arguing that if a person is raped - they made a bad decision somewhere and therefor are to be blamed.
Originally posted by zazzafrazz
reply to post by James1982
I believe I quoted CHarmed,
When quoting ones text one isn't twisting anything.
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edit on 20-8-2012 by zazzafrazz because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Libertygal
Originally posted by Charmed707
reply to post by Libertygal
Do you really not understand the difference in being aggressively pursued and victimized versus pursuing the danger yourself i.e getting drunk in a bar/party or going home with a stranger?