posted on Jul, 8 2012 @ 07:57 AM
Originally posted by 74Templar
We seem to be set into a type hey? I always seemed to go for the users and the ones who wanted status, which always sent me broke. So I can relate.
Well, there's your problem, right there. Why do people (men AND women) keep going for the same type that makes them miserable? I never got that.
It is possible to be happy with someone, providing it's the right someone. That's not to say that any relationship is going to be perfect. There is
no way for two people to live with each other and not ever have an issue or two -- but if both are willing to work through those issues, and if there
is some love and affection there -- it can and does work.
I was single until I was 39 years old. I was happy being single, because I never found a guy that I knew I could live with, and I wasn't willing to
settle. I was happily independent, successful at my job, owned my own home, and wasn't "desperate" to be married. And yes, I had a married friend
who kept trying to fix me up. I asked her why, and she said, "Because I don't want you to be alone in your old age, with no one to help you."(no
husband, no kids, etc.)
I kept resisting her attempts, until I finally caved in, and went out with the guy. Well, I met my other half, and we have been happily married for 13
years this year. I knew in the first date that this man was different than any of the other men I had gone out with. He was the right one for me. He
didn't have any money when I married him, so it wasn't for money or status. What do I love about him? He's smart -- crazy smart, and nothing turns
me on more than intelligence. He's deep, not shallow -- I hate shallow in both men and women. He comes from a eerily similar background as me, so we
understand each other perfectly.
I am so glad my friend insisted I meet this guy. While my life was fine when I was single, and it was certainly less complicated back then - I
wouldn't trade my "messy and complicated" life now for anything!