reply to post by 74Templar
Oh I'm sure being single is not so abnormal as that, in fact if its not in the norm percentage then its not all that far off. And everybody was
single at some time. And given the way things are going I think it will become the majority in the future and relationships as we know them may just
one day become the minority. In fact a lot of it if you look back and really think about it is nothing more then constructs, as in pressures mostly
societal to conform to certain patterns. Which makes sense in a lot of way's and for a lot of reasons, even for something as simple as we would not
want to have to many males running around with to much time on there hands, as things may start getting a bit to free.
That and I think the more important thing is that its a lot easier to handle yourself and all your emotions and hangups and everything else then it is
to go about it with somebody else. It does make things more complicated, when there is more then one to the equation in your life. Simple reasons
no doubt but there are the more complicated ones as well, which I will not go into as I think they are obvious at least to me, and so they should be
to everybody else as well. And really you would be surprised how much of it is just basically learned behavior, that is a lot of this pairing up or
hooking up is basically learned by watching others and copying or its installed by society and parents even TV.
Which I suppose is one of many reasons why we see that more likely then not if your parents marriage did not work and it lead to fireworks, well then
somewhere deep down that will stick into the operating system of those who were witness to the whole thing, ie the children. And really its just the
fact that "like breeds like" and its a chain that propagates itself in its likeness down the line. And down that line they to will come to the same
nexus as there parents.
That and given the fact that I personally don't date, and try to avoid it as its a headache. But dam it's a jungle out there when you do try to do
that scene. No joke, last time I tried was in January I did not get far at all, in fact went nowhere. I actually just joined one of them dating
sites and only sent one girl a request or whatever. Waited for about 3 weeks as she said she is busy in her profile, but then my thing got erased.
So ya! I got the picture.
Oh and the characters that are out there.
Man I don't know what it is, but I put my profile search to more of a family type of thing, and it
gave me that alright. I think it pretty much just gave me matches that had the word family in it. And lets just say it was interesting, one girl in
her profile it started out with something like.
"I do not want long term dating, I do not want a family, I just want to #, so get that right and I am tired of guys not getting that, and please do
not send me picks of your **** But I do expect to be wined and dinned and romanced" And I was like OK, your pretty dam hot but next one.
And the next one was something along the lines of, "I have a family, I have kids, I have a loving husband, I have my own place and all that, and I am
just looking for a good time. This is the 10th time and I am tired of people not getting that" The chick looked like your average everyday woman to.
And I got a bunch more like that all with the same sort of theme and message, and all of that was keyed with the word "family" in my matches. Sh*t one
chick I clicked on that it linked me, well it started pretty normal but then at the end of reading her profile it got pretty freaky, and she even
said that if you date her then you have to date her friend as well, who was in her profile picture...So I don't know! I guess it was a two for one
deal or something. And in my book one females = big headache. Two females = 10 times the headache and hassle.
And there were more like that or with a bit different theme in there profile. There were even some like what seemed to be normal chicks on there, but
after scooping it a while it just seemed like they just liked the attention more so then they were actually serious for anything even when they said
differently, they seemed like some sort of serial daters to me, and all kinds of other stuff I wont be going into. But ya it's a jungle out there
and that ain't even half the sh*t. So I decided to give up, maybe I will try again on a latter date, some other year.
But I feel ya bro, much less hassle, headache, and way dam cheaper to be single, and seeing as I ain't really popular with the ladies, or all that
much in the money. I think! and for me at least! that this whole thing has always been nothing but problems, upon problems, staying single may not
be possible for me in the long run, but I sure as hell enjoy my time while it lasts. And to hell with what people think.
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