posted on Jul, 8 2012 @ 04:32 AM
Or so people would have me believe.
Don’t get me wrong, I have many friends who have paired off that really don’t care about my preferred status. But I get it a lot in this world,
that somehow a preference to stay on my own is not normal.
In a nutshell I have been through two failed marriages and three other failed long-term relationships, and put simply, I just can’t make it work
out. Whether it be selfishness on my part, or a preference to be alone, I couldn’t say. All I can say is when I am in relationships, I am miserable.
When I am single, I’m not. I don’t know how else to explain it, but I can tell you one thing is for certain, what seems a normal choice to me, is
completely against the rules according to the mainstream.
Let me give you a few examples.
At a recent school sports day I was one of the few single dads there. They had a race for fun between the kids and their parents. Of course the
mothers there were in force as usual, and lining up to race their kids. When it came my turn I swear everyone looked around as I put my hand up as
though looking for my kid’s mother.
“Oh. I guess we have a dad here.” What? Of course you do. Is that so hard to believe?
And of course I have the well-meaning work colleagues and friends, who despite on the surface accept my reasons for wanting to be single, constantly
seek to try and “hook me up” with other singles. To be honest it’s infuriating.
At a party on the weekend, of course there are your couples, and your singles. Most of the people there that are single, are like me. Just not
interested. Of course one of my work colleagues just has to bring a single friend along, and spend the next half hour trying to essentially slam us
together, to see if we stick. Even I could see she was about as into that idea as I was. Thankfully my colleague eventually gave up. Later on, just
for the hell of it I talked to her, and she admitted the same as what I was thinking. That it was obvious that we were two singles, and of course
everyone just thought that we should hook up just because of that. We did actually get along quite well, but she had the same idea as me. Why is it
that people who are already coupled seem to think that people who are single are forever desparately seeking a partner?
I’m quite happy being single. I have enough to do with a family and work, and to be honest don’t really want to put myself or another person
through a relationship again. The bottom line is I have enough single friends that if I need a “date,” I can ask one of them and vice versa.
Does anyone else share this lack of need to be partnered up? Or am I just, as my friends imply, not normal?