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Originally posted by chr0naut
reply to post by AwakeinNM
May I suggest you grab a towel and a good stiff drink.
Originally posted by AK907ICECOLD
reply to post by anthonygillespie2012
No I do not say this is okay, but sometimes things like this happen, an it's up to the people around a individual or the community as say, ATS to support him in anyway we can, calling someone a coward is not tough love, can you think of a more uplifting way to raise his spirits.. WTH man??
Another thought..... What makes you think that's okay, maybe or maybe not....are you better off from the people in your life whom called you a coward, don't you think there is a more valued way to raise someone spirit, my church does give me tough love, but yet to call me or place me in the mind set that I'm a coward, please digest that thought process for a moment before you answer. What if you lost your home and your wife left you and you were absolutely hopeless do you think that by me giving you tough love calling you a loser, pos, and a burden upon my community that will make and help you to rise in a positive outlook in life, shame on you!
edit on 16-1-2012 by AK907ICECOLD because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by anthonygillespie2012
Originally posted by AK907ICECOLD
reply to post by anthonygillespie2012
Calling him or his actions cowardly is not a way to ensure hope or love in a fellow man. I mean wtf, have you been in this position before? be a little more supportive of someone in dire trouble rather than say he's a .......
If I was I mod I would delete your post, just saying..it doest help.. You must have it nice and a good life to be calling or aiming negativity at someone who's asking for advice..
I'll pray for you as well. Give him some slack, you should at least know his place before judging who he is, for all you know he might actually be stronger than you, in ways you blah blah blah
Btw, His new action may save the relationship of his family, how the hell do you guys know, calling him a coward, and in your lives you have never been, think real hard before answering that.. Some people, dudes let's help him rather than bash him for having a hard time in his life, no wonder this world is in such bad shape..edit on 16-1-2012 by AK907ICECOLD because: Added love, n more loveedit on 16-1-2012 by AK907ICECOLD because: (no reason given)
And if I was a mod I would delete your post. Let me ask you this Mr. 'Proud Alaskan'' ever heard of tough love?
What if he leaves his daughters forever and say something bad happens to there mother and his daughters need him at any moment in their life because they wished he was around , your saying this is ok? What if the mother has some of problem and the state government has to take care of his children because He was never there, this is okay?edit on 16-1-2012 by anthonygillespie2012 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by AwakeinNM
Originally posted by anthonygillespie2012
Originally posted by AK907ICECOLD
reply to post by anthonygillespie2012
Calling him or his actions cowardly is not a way to ensure hope or love in a fellow man. I mean wtf, have you been in this position before? be a little more supportive of someone in dire trouble rather than say he's a .......
If I was I mod I would delete your post, just saying..it doest help.. You must have it nice and a good life to be calling or aiming negativity at someone who's asking for advice..
I'll pray for you as well. Give him some slack, you should at least know his place before judging who he is, for all you know he might actually be stronger than you, in ways you blah blah blah
Btw, His new action may save the relationship of his family, how the hell do you guys know, calling him a coward, and in your lives you have never been, think real hard before answering that.. Some people, dudes let's help him rather than bash him for having a hard time in his life, no wonder this world is in such bad shape..edit on 16-1-2012 by AK907ICECOLD because: Added love, n more loveedit on 16-1-2012 by AK907ICECOLD because: (no reason given)
And if I was a mod I would delete your post. Let me ask you this Mr. 'Proud Alaskan'' ever heard of tough love?
What if he leaves his daughters forever and say something bad happens to there mother and his daughters need him at any moment in their life because they wished he was around , your saying this is ok? What if the mother has some of problem and the state government has to take care of his children because He was never there, this is okay?edit on 16-1-2012 by anthonygillespie2012 because: (no reason given)
They have plenty of aunts and uncles. Their mom can tell them some story about how I died in a trampoline mishap, or tell them that her new man is their dad - they are too young to know any better.
Originally posted by AwakeinNM
Okay, so here is my situation. I have been unemployed for over two years. I can't find a job anywhere, including Home Depot or Target. I have a degree and a lot of experience. The bank is threatening foreclosure. My business is about to go t!ts up. My wife wants a divorce for much less of a reason than she should, and she just had our second daughter 10 weeks ago.
I am at the end of the line. I do not know what to do, and I can not handle a divorce scenario. My mind can't even process it. I'm not going to go into why, but I know myself and I did not get married for this to happen and I can not go through it. She's been in another state for the past couple weeks to distance herself from me and I have been going guano loco without her and my daughters. My wife will not go to counseling or even try to work on our marriage, which is repairable, in my opinion. She won't even acknowledge that she might even be partly at fault even though I've acknowledged my shortcomings. Her mind is made up. Anyway, enough about that part.
I have run out of options and can't even fathom any alternative to being married and seeing my daughters and being a daily part of their childhood, so Monday morning I am going to pack my truck, max out a line of credit and disappear.
Flame me all you want and call me names, but I am just asking for some advice on how best to survive. I'll have a wad of cash and no destination in mind, so I'll have to live however I can until the money runs out. Hopefully I'll have landed an under-the-table job somewhere before that happens and I'll be able to rent a room. Perhaps a bartending job on a beach somewhere, who knows.
I am at the end of my days as a normal citizen, and I've resolved myself to that reality. I can not do anything else any more.
Advice?
edit on 16-1-2012 by AwakeinNM because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Quauhtli
Gotta stay close to those girls buddy. Just for the simple fact that you are considering going on the rogue for a while tells me that you are a resourceful guy. Buck it up and do what you have to do to survive and stay close to your girls. They will need you one day for the things that your wife cannot provide, such as protection. Believe me, one day you will get to the point where you WILL know that it was the right thing to be close. When the time comes you will not have time to go back for them. You will get used to not being with your wife. Now is the time for you to learn how to look at the big picture, and react only to that. Look at it this way, it may be hard to see it now, but this is a good opportunity for you to become as strong as you can without the distraction of your wife.
For your girls.