reply to post by AwakeinNM
Buddy, I say this from a point that I just left that exact same situation....a few months ago, the eviction notice arrived, and I told my wife to pack
the kid up and head to her mother's. She asked me what I would do, and through controlled tears, I told her that Dusty (my jack russel) and I would
head to the mountains and go off the grid. We would drive as far as we could, then sell the car, buy gear and then start the long walk. In one of
her few occasions of simple logic, let me have my break and then told me we would figure it out.
The eviction did happen, and that was without question one of the saddest days of my life. Looking my 13 year old daughter in the eyes and telling
her to quickly grab what she needed for a while. 'but daddy, why?'......'honey, we have to go, please don't ask questions, just do as i
ask'......breaks my heart even now.
My mother was able to save the day a few days later and help us get back into the house. I will never be able to understand how she came up with the
cash, but bless her to no end. We got lucky, but we got back in and it wasn't but a few weeks (two I think), that I got a call from not one but two
companies to start very shortly......
We are still recovering, our property managers are parasites...I can go into a long list on that....but if they had even tried to work with us,
....wait, that is another topic for another day....but loose it....guess that is what I am saying.
Men are generally tough, we hold it in, we keep it to ourselves......because we see it as being solid and stable for our families.....They need that
one thing in their otherwise hectic life to see dad without fear.....Well, after my little breakdown and release, my wife and I talked......we really
talked, we felt the relief, the brainstorming of options and ideas......
Besides empathy, I wanted to give you a feeling that, maybe she isn't seeing everything from your side or how much this is hurting you....I looked
for a full time job for over three years, my business was failing (it was in direct ties to the mortgage market, so i knew i was screwed).....we moved
2000 miles across country to a 'promised' job that disappeared....and struggled for a year in a new place without family support trying to make ends
meat. Keep looking forward, and if the long walk is the option you choose....Go with God, may the wind always be at your back.
I started a thread a while ago about something like this....regarding, how would we survive if we just couldn't find work. Unlike our a few
generations ago, someone could go on the land and make a life....but in today's world, i just don't see that as an option anymore....the thread
didn't get much attention....not enough interest i guess, but obviously it is an issue.