Argh I hate hearing stories like this, so amazingly sad but equally aggravating!
Had a similar situation once but much less violent.
This particular club is sometimes attended by large groups of Chinese, generally awesome, wonderful partygoers like everyone else, however sometimes
they can get a bit 'tussly'; nothing too major but just a little pushy with their ladyfriends. Slightly hard grab of arm, bit of pulling and very
petty shoving, looks like general rather heated, drunken 'someone is being unreasonable' handbag throwing crap. Could be cultural? Not sure. I've
been in hospo for 7 years and I've never seen a local white/black/brown/orange/green guy do more than yelling at his girl. Never pushing or laying a
hand. I'd say this is because they know that the guys around them will kick their ass if they act that way in public in New Zealand. That's the only
reason I'm making a racial distinction in this case.
This time it was a little different.
I'm sitting in a car with a ladyfriend. We're talking quietly and just having a good chillax from the bustle of the club.
Guy hanging out
with a friend starts arguing with his girl, on the pavement infront of us. Escalates. Starts pushing his ladyfriend a bit so I start watching
intently. She's starting to cry plus avoid him and he's starting to push a bit harder, I'm moving my hand in doorlatch just in case, when my
ladyfriend says 'I think we'd better stop this'. As per OP, a woman definately has a quicker protective instinct than I!
As we are beginning to exit the car, 'pushy guy' pushes his girl harder, she nearly falls over, then a second push and she lands on the concrete,
whacking her head on a glass shopfront. We both yell "OI!". I'm now majorly pissed off and will do whatever I can to prevent a breach of the peace
in this manner. I'm rockin' a singlet, over 6'1", millitary style haircut and have been bodybuilding for five years plus. Pushy guys' mate spots
trouble coming, scoots over to placate me so he won't have to potentially scrape his mate off the pavement. Pushy has stopped pushing, not feeling
like such a big man anymore with the added attention. Friend is all "don't worry it's not as bad as it looks, it's all good... blah blah" (tried
to sound like it's commonplace!). Whilst shooting an icy stare at 'pushy guy', whom is looking more and more worried by the minute, I looked his
friend in the eye and stated "your friend may be having problems with his ladyfriend, but if you don't stop it, I will and he (I do the techno
viking point at pushy) sure as hell doesn't want me being his problem".
Pushy guy has backed off his girl and they dawdle back towards the club, with pushy and his girl keeping quite some distance. Bouncers are watching
them too. I hope he learnt his lesson that this crap is not tolerated in this day and age. That said, I havn't seen any tussles since!
On that note, excellent work OP, you should be extremely proud for stepping in to defuse such a volatile situation. Do not be ashamed of harming
another being, in some situations violence is the only answer to protect the livelyhood of an innocent party. That said, in any fight, both sides
loose, however the balance is what swung in your favour and you should hold your chin up and keep it there. My situation was easy, yours sounded like
a challenge from hell.