posted on Oct, 15 2010 @ 11:26 AM
reply to post by getreadyalready
Wow!
You have always had my respect, more so now than ever before, my kind friend
I respect your honesty and that you have no need to apologize for being you.
I wish more men were that way. What I mean is, I wish they were comfortable enough with themselves to have the "take me as I am", "this is who I
am" "love me or leave me" attitude.... and "don't try to change me" philosophy... (the one's in control of themselves aren't rude to others,
they simply value their time and don't care to waste it with someone who doesn't accept the line that is clearly drawn).
Imo, for as long as dominant men and women are in control of their ego and it's not the other way around, they will always have respect from
friends and foes alike.
I certainly can't judge you on the "cheating" part of your posts (if I read them right)...
IF you made your views and expectations clear to
your partner, as it sounded like you did, while in the dating stages. It's up to the partner to accept those views and expectations or not. No one is
being forced to "like it". If they don't like it, they should be just as open and honest.
It's a two-way street.
You are also correct that women have their secrets, their fantasies. If the guy wants to know more about their partner and trust and respect are a
large part of the relationship, the woman will feel safe enough to share with him.
When the trust and respect for each other is cherished, the relationship has no limits, the magic and the love, the good and not so good times in life
are much easier to deal with together.
It all starts with a "matter of fact" honesty, an ear to listen and someone who is also willing to listen to you.
The U.K. cleric is a dirt bag and he and others who think like him will never have a rich and adventurous, loving life if they force anything upon
anyone. (Perfect example of "ego/entitlement" controlling the man instead of the man controlling his ego!)
sl