posted on Dec, 5 2012 @ 04:02 PM
Don't jump to conclusions. Something similar happened to me years ago. I had set up a profile when i was single "im a man" and it was out of
curiosity just testing the waters. My strategy was if i seen a female i recognized locally maybe i would approach them in real life that way it would
speed up the process however i was too shy and timid to actually meet someone from the internet but that's just me.
I met my wife soon after through work unrelated to the singles ads. So i completely forgot about the profile and years later one of my buddies told
me he seen me on a singles sight while browsing himself lol. It could have been my wife and that would have made for a awkward situation explaining it
to her... what if there was still a margin of doubt? I deleted the profile needless to say after much difficulty remembering a password from 10 years
ago. Keep in mind because it says he is online does not mean he is. A lot of these sights use tactics to lure you in to joining they even make fake
profiles! It's all about making money off you not finding you a date or a roll in the hay.
The only way to know for certain is to make a profile yourself use maybe a models picture and create a fake identity and contact him. See what he
says, ask him if he is single. If he passes with flying colors kudos, it may be diabolical or might seem wrong but either way it will be worth it imo.
The probability that he will be completely honest if he is guilty if you confront him is low. That's just my opinion though.
Keep in mind he may have very well set up a profile yes, but he may not have any intent to cheat. It could be for a variety of reasons, maybe he is
bitter from his divorce so much he feels that you will throw him under the bus at some point? He could be feeling insecure and the divorce took it's
toll. And if he is talking to other women thinking it is harmless that he will all ready have a leg up or can rebound faster if things go south. Did
you know men cheat usually out of being insecure? That they need to feel they or we must have confirmation we are wanted and even lusted after? This
could be the precursor to cheating in the future however you need proof.
People usually think of cyber space as being as fake as a video game and it is harmless to flirt online. It has to be in the physical to count right?
Not necessarily, a common misconception. We love attention from other women and we do like the idea of women wanting us as men its natural. But there
is s stark difference between embellishing in the attention and flirtation and cheating. Im not talking about grabbing you you know where groping you
by the water cooler at the office, i mean subtle harmless day to day interaction. I mean who wouldn't like it ? He could be just there to flirt but
not cheat does that make sense? My wife says i love the attention from other women when they come up and talk to me some even flirt at me lol. I guess
i do, does not mean i will act upon the opportunity to run astray. Old faithful here. But like i said just put him to the test.
best of luck
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