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From a guy who has been married for over 20 years, I will say this to you. If you don't have trust, you have nothing worth saving. Show dude the door and find someone else. And don't shut down the guy who you think is "too nice" without giving him a chance.
In this particular situation though, I tend to think, yeah...dog...If he was surfing porn, that'd be totally different. That's being curious, that's window-shopping. The dating site that you both agreed to quit, is shady, IMO.
Now, I have to say that a couple things jumped out at me:
1. You say you implicitly trust your friend. Okay, you know her, I don't...But...What was this happily married friend doing on a dating site?!
2. You said he had no self esteem/confidence when you met...RED FLAG!!!
3. You say you lack confidence and/or gun-shy yourself. Well, nothing wrong with that, but, that is like blood in the water for creeps, honestly. They see you coming from a mile away. You gotta work on that, or you'll keep attracting losers/users/creeps and worse. Just my opinion. You'll be better off for it anyway, right?
Originally posted by Gamma MO
reply to post by Radekus
Most narcissists don't love themselves at all. They despise themselves inside. That's why it is so disproportionate to the outside world. They make a show out of loving themselves because deep down they think no one else ever really will.
Truly loving yourself is the key to finding the right person. When you love yourself, it can't help but spill out into the outside world.
Don't look for someone to love you. Instead look for someone YOU can offer real love TO (in a healthy, balanced way).
In fact I still haven't permanently deleted it, its just hidden from searches on there.
Please don't assume all men are horny idiots just out for as much action as they can get. Some of us can be quite insecure.
Originally posted by eletheia
reply to post by timidgal
He was dishonest, and yet you take the blame for being TOO hasty in showing him
Same sort of mindset of battered wives (partners) 'You made me do it' or 'You drove me
to it' and 'Forgive me i swear i'll never do it again'