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Originally posted by stirling
A LIE is a LIE is a LIE..........I have blown off EVERY possible partner ive met since my divorce/separation
The First Lie is the LAST lie.....PERIOD....
Theres NO other way ....ya did good...now get off those dating sites and go find a real person out there.......
These sites are filled with people who are loosers to start with.......and predators as well......
Go join some charity group....volunteer or do something to meet other people....sincere people.
LOVE ?.......Meh,......... its a scam 99% of the time.
Originally posted by QUANTUMGR4V17Y
Don't worry about it for now. You just met the guy a couple weeks ago? I wouldn't say it's a big deal.
Not yet, anyways. I would speak with him about it in a week or two (now that you know.), if you're as good looking and great a catch as you say, you have absolutely no worries!
Can someone please explain this to me? If you're a middle-aged man and you meet a compatible, attractive, affectionate female who is supposedly the antithesis of what you've been looking for, what is it that drives you to stray? Can someone please explain this insanity to me? Needless to say, his butt is being kicked to the curb but I feel like this was it for me and I'm not putting myself out there again. Can anyone lend some clarity to this?
Originally posted by Asktheanimals
reply to post by Hefficide
Wow Heff! My ex really did get around.
She gave you the old car broke down routine too?
OP - Between Greenglassdoors and Heffs first post I think they covered it pretty well.
Most guys are dogs and keep the door cracked either looking to upgrade or have a fallback relationship.
It doesn't mean the man you're dating now couldn't be the right guy for you - he may well be.
If you're happy just to be together doing nothing special then you're on the right track.
But you'll never really know until there's problems and see how those are resolved between you both.
Love is out there but don't count on it always being permanent.
Many have found that different people are the right choice for different stages in their lives.
Sometimes it's the conventional views of "love til death do us part" that end up keeping us from being happy.
Good luck and much happiness and love!
Originally posted by timidgal
reply to post by CayceFan
Yes I did and we've supposedly been exclusive (his request and not mine) for about six months. After about four months of dating, he asked that I take down my profile and he would do the same. Now, I could have played the typical suspicious woman and kept checking to ensure that his profile was permanently disabled, but I assumed, given the circumstances, that this wasn't necessary. Was I a naive idiot or what??
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.