posted on Dec, 5 2012 @ 01:53 PM
Originally posted by timidgal
reply to post by Hefficide
She's happily married and very much in love with her husband. She was also the one who talked me into giving this one a chance in the first place
and is ALMOST as devastated by this as I am. She truly wanted me to find the same type of happiness she found with her own significant other.
Ok, so I had to quote this from page 2 of the thread. Im not sure if it has been brought up yet, but your saying that this happily married and very
much in love with her husband friend of yours is on a dating site herself? You mentioned checking out this guys profile by logging in using her
account in an earlier comment.
So, am I missing something here? Are they swingers? In an open relationship? Why does this supposedly devouted wife of a man have an account on a
dating site? Can you trust her since she is doing that while married to that man? You know them, so ill leave the explaining to you here.
On topic: I would say he is being dishonest in his commitment to you. Especially after requesting that you take down your account, and stating that
he would do the same. My girlfriend and I met online. We decided to take our accounts down together and it was actually quite fun to do so in one
anothers presence. No way in hell I would join another, or go back on the one on which we found one another. All of our friends from our past dating
life are still our friends and supportive that we both found a match.
As far as trust is concerned... At our age (myself upper 30's and her early 30's), we have all most likely encountered some sort of betrayal whether
in a relationship, friendship or through an acquaintence. Its not always easy... But when one or the other has an insecurity based on past experience
and expresses it to their partner, I feel the right thing to do is at least respect it, even if we don't quite understand why they would question us
when we believe they should have a solid trust in us.... In fact it's better for me to realize that, even if directed at me... Its not about me but
rather someone else.
We have been through a few tough times based on trust. If one doesn't ask for clarification or speak out their reasons, then something greater can
be overlooked. I can tell you... Our relationship has gained so much strength through the power of understanding and forgiveness. We have told one
another to eff off and both checked out... But in the end, we talked it out and it only led to our better understanding of one another. We are deeply
in love and respect because of that. It never hurts to hurt and learn from it.... Well it hurts... But you know what I mean
. Pain constitutes