I think what I find most surprising is the lack of responsibility this man shows?
I mean, I just tend to assume that all parents know- how your kids turn out mostly depends on what kind of parent you are/have been.
When they get to teenhood, and then adult, you see the fruit of your choices. That is very hard to face. Every time I felt disappointed with something
one of my kids did, I look at our past and how I influenced this.
At first it is very painful to do so, but you soon recognize that no one is a perfect parent, and you are bound to make mistakes and not know what
your choices shall entail- while you search to avoid some particular problem (usually one you had as a child) you cause a different kind of problem
you couldn't foresee!
That's just life. That's how older people can help young parents- by offering their experience and advice, based on the mistakes they made!
One thing I am very proud of in my kids is that they are responsible though- not only in a material sense- so far each has become completely
independant at 18, paying their own apartment and living expenses while going to university (despite our offers to pay for them!),
but when they make a mistake, they acknowledge it!
They analyze their own choices, take note of the mistake and learn from it- even if I am, on my side, looking for my responsibility in it....
What this suggests is that kids learn more from their parents than what they are consciously taught!
My kids probably do this (take responsibility for their actions and learn form them) because I do.
If this guys kids are making the same mistakes repeatedly, perhaps it is because no parent showed them through example how to acknowledge their
mistakes and accept responsibility for them, hmmmmm???
edit on 26-11-2012 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)