Originally posted by jiggerj
reply to post by FailedProphet
Generational differences are real, and they matter.
Can't argue with that. Responsible parents usually means somewhat strict parents. Their kids grow up thinking that they wouldn't raise their kids that
way. Then these free-spirited parents leave their kids frustrated because of a lack of firm guidelines, so they grow up to be responsible parents with
firm rules. And so on and so on.
This can go either way, you can be so strict that you shelter your children and stop them from learning crucial social skills required -- out
I was brought up with stupid strict parents and it has produced a conundrum that I cannot seem to solve.
I wasn't allowed to cross the street, go anywhere without chaperone, stay home by myself, go out with friends.
Therefor, a large amount of my childhood was being bullied and picked on, and being alone with a guardian in the other room.
Suffice it to say -- currently, I don't find interesting what most find interesting. I'm very quiet unless there is something to talk about
I am pretty much incapable of "Idle" chit chat -- it's just.... awkward. I read, I post about things that interest me -- the things that interest me
are usually macro. What I find entertaining is otherwise a miss to people that aren't me. I like to read/write and study. I watch no television
apart from 1 tv show, which I stream off the internet since I don't even have tv since I don't watch it. I don't like to go out -- because what's
there to do? Wiggle and gyrate to god awful music? Talk about celebrities that I've never heard of? How about those cowboys? I wouldn't know a
thing about that stuff because to me it's just dumb.
I understand the interest in playing a game or sport, I understand less the interest in watching a game or sport.
It makes sense to me, for those that play said game to watch said game, to improve at said game. If you don't play said game, what is the point in
watching it? I often find that people who are into stuff like this are generally bland/shallow/not really intelligent people. They don't know the
difference between a republican or a democrat, furthermore, they are blind to the fact that in actuality -- it doesn't really matter, history proves
the only difference is how they shuffle the deck. One side bridges, the other side cuts -- in the end, the deck is shuffled the same, is it not?
So yeah -- strict parents ruin their kids. I find that, the more freedoms parents afford to their kids, the better they grow.
Parents are supposed to teach you common sense and manners, the rest you kind of have to develop through your own experiences, if you aren't allowed
to have any, that development doesn't really take place.
Affording your kids freedom does not equate to free reign either, but you must use discretion.
For instance; my little brother is ten years old and his parents won't let him stay home alone. My parents didn't either until they got divorced,
then it was because there was no other choice. However, I was around the same age as him when that happened.
A kid should be fine for short bids on his own as young as 8, sheltering him so he never has to do anything for himself all the way up to 15 isn't
doing any good for him, in fact -- it's doing more harm then good.
There is such thing as protective, and then -- classically, over protective.
Strict is over protective. Not caring is under protective. That middle ground is the best for raising children.
It's a parents job to make sure that their child understand reality, not some twisted variant that only exists within your childs own experience
My dad was born in '51 and he's afraid of everything. "Don't drive on holidays, you'll die" -- "Watch out, this lane merges" -- "Never ride a
motorcycle, they all lose legs or die eventually" -- "Don't go skydiving, the chute may not open" etc.
That's strict. Can't do anything, because of what *COULD* happen. That's no way to live and experience life, IMO. It's certainly an environment
that stifles growth of character and self development.
I must add, that -- no matter how smart you are, if you don't obtain a good set of social skills, you're not going anywhere productive in life.
Job interview? Good luck with getting hired "weirdo." Promotion? Not likely, since you go to work to work, and not to socialize. Get married have
kids? Where does that start for the kids that were bullied their whole life, and were beaten into thinking their "less" than acceptable.
There will always be a generational gap as long as people continue to grasp to ideologies that are false. The world changes, what was true yesterday
is false tomorrow -- if we aren't raising our kids to accept this fact and we just pass down the stupid from the previous generations -- how will we
ever grow as a society?
What the world needs, is a proper shift. We went from tribes to cities. From Chief's to dictator, from dictator to limited dictator....
We went from stone, to metal, to wood, to plastic...
It's time for a world shift to happen, for society to become a new with these principles in mind.
It's time to usher in the age of glass. The first true transparent society where freedom is of utmost priority.
edit on 26-11-2012 by Laykilla
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