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...Fed up of "being forced to live through the never-ending bad dream of our children's underachievement and ineptitude." Mr Crews concludes he wants to hear no more from them until they had something positive to tell him. He signs off: "I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed. Dad."
..."What he said was what a lot of people of his age, gender and class would probably like to say to their children but would never dare to...they're just not 21st-century parents" [says his daughter]
She adds: ‘None of us has been a drain on the State, none of us has got into drugs or done anything bad. ‘None of us is lazy or has asked them for money. We’ve been no trouble to him financially or socially. My father’s problem is disappointment.
‘What he said in his email was quite correct, but I don’t think it was the right kind of support or the kick up the backside he intended it to be. I think he has created a monster out of the worst of us and ignored the best.
Men fight for liberty and win it with hard knocks. Their children, brought up easy, let it slip away again, poor fools. And their grandchildren are once more slaves. ~D.H. Lawrence, Classical American Literature, 1922
Originally posted by FailedProphet
He thinks they are whiners who burden their mother with complaints instead of pulling themselves up by their own bootstraps.
‘That makes me weep, especially when you hear other people, our friends, talking about their children who are paragons, when I can’t give any good news.
Originally posted by Raelsatu
So it's apparent that it's not only about the grandchildren; he's upset that he's unable to match up his children to his friend's. It's a strange situation because in those types of social circles,the parents are often either extremely wealthy &/or overachievers in their occupational field. So they have some psychological predisposition to set a bar for their children; if you're not making millions or living the life they preconceived, then you're a failure & a disappointment.
Generational differences are real, and they matter.