Originally posted by ollncasino
Originally posted by schuyler
The problem as I see it, being the father of three underachievers myself, is not so much that the kids are underachieving, but that they lay the drama
of it all back on the parents, in this case primarily the mother. If you want use your $100K Marine Science degree that I paid for into watching
goldfish at Starbucks for the rest of your life, have at it! It's just that I don't want the blowback.
I think that was the father's main point. While he has spent a fortune giving his kids a private education, they now work in minimum wage jobs, are
unhappy with their lot in life and unload it all on the poor mother.
To be fair to the kids though, if all three of them are under achievers, something went wrong with their upbringing?
I know I personally wouldn't fancy having a Nuclear submarine captain as a father. I don't imagine he was the most supportive or confidence building
Wow, I can't believe I'm saying this. .. but for once, I agree with ollncasino
If all three kids have problems, something was definitely wrong with their upbringing. Let me give you a couple of examples:
My parents were fairly strict, and pretty stingy with their money (well, they actually didn't have a lot when I was little). They thought education
was very important, and I was punished for making bad grades/rewarded for making good grades. They analyzed every graded paper I brought home.
Whenever I would complain about tough teachers, or lots of homework - their response was "suck it up, there will be tough employers and tough jobs
when you grow up - get used to it". I went to the college of their choice (what they could afford). Because they were paying for it, they get to
We didn't get a lot of material things handed to us. I remember making some money babysitting when I was 14, but I was blowing the money on stupid
things like music, candy and teen magazines. My mom told me that in a couple of years I was going to want a car really bad, so maybe I should start
saving my money now, because I was going to have to buy my own car. She even took me to a used car lot, so I could get an idea of exactly how much I
was going to have to save. Looking at those cars got me excited, so from that point on, I saved every penny. When I had a chance to go out with my
friends on the weekend, I instead chose to babysit. Needless to say, I purchased my own used car by the time I was 17.
I grew up having a strong work ethic, knew how to manage my money, and toughed it out with mean bosses and difficult jobs. All thanks to my
Here's how my aunt and uncle raised their two boys:
They got more toys than the richest kids on the block. Every time my aunt went shopping - and I mean EVERY time - she bought something for those kids.
When they turned 16, they bought brand new cars for both those boys. When they would complain about a tough teacher, my aunt would run down to the
school and fight their battles. They got everything handed to them on a silver platter. My aunt and uncle thought what they were doing proved they
loved their kids. How did those kids grow up? They struggle with their jobs, they are always broke (but they have the coolest cars, the most expensive
guns and the biggest TV's), they can't handle any adversity that comes their way, and they take total advantage of their parents.
How you are raised as a child has everything to do with how you turn out as an adult.
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