I completely agree with your point about shoes, and I actually had the same conversation with my (male) roommate a month or so ago. Shoes always fit
you, even if you gain 10lbs, even if you're feeling bloated or whatever, so shoes are always a happy-thing, and can fit into pretty much any budget.
Other clothes, and shopping for them, can be fraught with difficulties like changing room mirrors, bad hair days, "omg, do I really look that old
under fluorescent lights", etc.
As far as the nice guy thing. A lot of guys that aren't all that confident think they're a nice guy, especially if they don't date much, but in
reality, they're more of a doormat than a nice guy. I've dated guys who I'm sure would think they're "nice guys", but who were hell to date,
because they were very passive aggressive, never actually saying what they wanted, always wanting me to be the one deciding things like where we're
going, what we're watching, what we're eating, etc etc. It gets really tiresome having to run someone else's life for them, always having to be the
entertaining one. Everybody has wants and needs and things that bother them, and it's different for all of us, but in a successful relationship, if
you can't articulate those needs like an adult, you're going to make your partner miserable. I personally would love a guy that's a "nice guy"
but who also knows what he wants, and has some kind of personality that's not the nice guy void. I want someone that will argue with me when I'm
wrong, (it's rare, but it happens
) and not just say "Yes dear, whatever you say dear".. After all, who wants a life without passion in it?
As far as shopping and diamonds go, I'm really not the average girl, I'd rather have books, or geek things like computers than I would diamonds..
yeah, they're pretty, but such a waste of money. I really don't want to walk around wearing something that cost more than my car, and looks as
generic as something every other girl wears. I also don't really do the shopping thing, unless I really actually need new clothes or something. I can
be persuaded to enjoy it once I'm out doing it, but again, the only kind of stores I really enjoy are places like fry's, or bookstores.
Women's rest rooms.. I have seen a few fancy ones with couches and stuff in them, but the only time I've ever seen someone sitting on them would be
if it's in a club. (Usually because they want to talk and it's too loud outside in the club to do so comfortably)
Just for reference purposes, I'm 30.