To say it short and sweet, I have always found that I find a man to be attractive when he shows signs of being able to determine what he wants, and go
after it in a focused energetic way, which includes faith and endurance.
That is something that calls to me on a deep instinctual level, as an effective provider needs that quality. I don't want a dreamer with ideas he
hasn't the drive or focus to make reality. I don't want one that has ideas, but burns out quickly on their realization because of lack of endurance. I
want to support and go with him on the realization of his dreams and plans.
This shows when he decides I am what he wants, and he is willing to work patiently and with effort towards that goal, despite whatever challenges or
I also find it attractive when the man is a bit egotistical- in the sense of tending to protect and defend his body, his possessions, his ideas, no
matter what the environment or entourage says- which explains some of the bad boy attraction. The rebel of society desires to be his own master and
authority.... but after high school, it becomes clear whether they have the other (forementioned) skills, and make that constructive.
Who wants to be the "other half" of a man who sacrifices himself and what is his, too readily? Not me.
I like a man who shows that he is not too quick to jump in bed with me. Who has some sense of self preservation, self respect, and recognition of his
own emotional vulnerability. It is attractive when he has some sense of need for stability in a relationship, and is master of his own reproductive
drives. That man is more likely to be a reliable and loyal mate.
I am completely turned off by men who talk of women being impossible to comprehend and maddening. That tells me they do not understand their own
feminine side, their own emotions, or the value of their own imagination. The value of "fantasy" and imagination in setting goals and creating your
life is incredibly important in a life partner.
edit on 5-10-2014 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)