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You can be my architect anytime! I like your creative mind. but no. Not the ones I hang out in.
Originally posted by LLoyd45
Is the women's restroom really populated with Adonis-like male servants that attend to all your bodily comforts?
I've envisioned it as being furnished with chaise lounges, harp music, water fountains, etc.
No# 1 problem with that is that you aren't being yourself. Why should you try so hard to please anyone? If you are a straightforward person, you should attract like minded women. If a woman wants mystery she will probably search for it in many men. Women do like the chase. I think because of a combination of evolution and animal instinct. We do want to be "sought". It makes us feel valued. If you try pretty hard to get us, it looks as if you really like us. But most times I have found that men who act like that, are sometimes only interested in a sexual conquest. On the other hand, relationships that evolve out of friendship first usually are less mysterious, but more stable.
Originally posted by TheRepublic
women are impossible to understand because they dont even seem to understand themselves. I would agree with the insane fantasy based perspective. Ive had girls say they like mystery and the chase, so then i stay distant, then they end up with some other boyfreind... then you decide to be straightforward with them and they say they want more mystery.
good god it never ends, i need a beer.
im a pisces rising also so i think it makes things even more difficult haha.
Good question! I have done this.
Originally posted by theendisnear69
I would like to know why women always pass up the good guy and go after the a$$hole?
Seriously why do they do it? Maybe they have some fantasy about bad guys that turns them on.
Women always say O I can't find a nice guy. And those of us who are nice are standing right in front of them
ah, my favorite question. You guys have testosterone. It is worth it's weight in gold.
Originally posted by 5ealchris
Sorry if I sound sexist here but....
Some women are very unstable and can act really crazy and go through mood swings alot ect ect ect.
And make women very hard to understand.
So as a male this can be very annoying, and when you try to help them when they get like this they just seem to get pissed off at you.
So I think this is mainly why women are seen in a negative ways by men.
Each woman has a different idea about that. Me personally? I like men who are not too muscular. Too muscular seems like a fascination with their own bodies. Someone who is sexually oriented only. But that is just my opinion.
Originally posted by For(Home)Country
What a good thread, I am looking forward to seeing what all turns out here. As a male myself, I have a few of my own questions, mostly regarding attraction.
What do women like in men? Sometimes, you see women that go for big muscle men, and others that go for the small yet nice guy. Do women like it when guys care, or when men act like, well "men" as big, not caring and brute creatures, as portrayed by the media. Now, I'm not concerned with attracting women, as I already have a girlfriend (so I must be doing something right ) but in the end, it's kind of confusing as to what women like.
Big muscle and no feelings,
or slender and caring?
I think in some women there is a challenge factor. If you could only tame that man, it would say you were "special" somehow. That you had something that only he wanted. If all the other women are also interested in him, then you won.
Originally posted by LDragonFire
thought I would share this:
oh and BTW womens public restrooms are MUCH dirtier than mens restrooms.
*edit to add* I do have a question, why do so many women go for player type guys, guys they know will cheat on them? Is it the challenge? Or the yelling and screaming that always ends such relationships?
[edit on 29-7-2008 by LDragonFire]
Originally posted by scientist
reply to post by seagrass
I only ask for a single answer to help clear up confusion with women... in fact it goes beyond confusion into the realm of cognitive dissonance / cranial implosion.
- Girlfriend does NOT like violence, not even violent movies or violent music. Girlfriend LOVES diamonds. Explained to her that the diamond trade is coated in corruption and blood. Every diamond in the store is potentially the cause of multiple deaths, and even if not - the diamond industry itself fuels wars and genocide on a daily basis.
She understands, but doesn't care. She just wants that damn stone that does nothing but look pretty.
If you can manage to drill that logic into my skull, I may just have a breakthrough.
and just to clarify: YES, I am making the assumption that MOST women have the same feelings towards diamonds.
[edit on 29-7-2008 by scientist]