posted on Jun, 17 2011 @ 07:31 AM
Originally posted by Raist
From a male stand point I can say some things go on in clubs that are not supposed to take place. It depends on the owner and the location, as well as
the "ladies" working there. When I was younger I worked in the club different positions ending with bartender assistant manager. I also "dated"
(if that is even an accurate word for it) many of the "ladies" who worked there. It was a bit of a dream for a young horny guy I guess; I had
endless booze and women.
Ha I remember this thread....well as a "dancer" I agree with you. It is very different depending on where you are. I have seen it all and know what
cities and even states to never dance in. Right now it's a job, which I don't like, but it pays the bills while I continue looking for something
"normal." I got laid off three years ago and have been looking ever since. It's frustrating!
Even if you are not the one taking your clothes off things can change for you. There is something dark about much of the club life and it tends
to stain what it touches. Sure there are some respectable women out there, however they are far and few.
Again very true. I have seen a lot of people change in this business. They weren't dancers but bar staff or security and a friend of mine who went
from door guy to popular club owner. He did a 360 when he got money and I didn't like him after that... For a young guy working in a strip club is
like a dream to those who never got any previously. It amazes me how easily swayed some are in this business over money. I have danced on and off for
years and I never really liked it, it was a job. I am one of those that hasn't been "tainted" by it. I know my boundaries and I could careless
about money, it changes people. I make my money off of being me, same as I am on here and people like it. I don't try to be something I am not even
at work. People are usually surprised by the conversations they have with me but it keeps them coming back. A lot of these women don't realize if
they used the brains they have they would do so much better. Most feel they have to dumb it down and really you don't....ok sorry went on a slight
rant but not a bad one lol
I can only give firsthand account, to any asking this same question now though I say do not do it. If she insists find someone else and move
on. Nothing good will come of this unless you have an already different relationship. Money can sway and tempt a lot of people, even more so now that
times are tough for many.
It is a completely different time and people will do anything now it seems for money and the new crop of girls are the worst. New, never danced and
think they have to be a "Bad Girl" to make money. It's ridiculous and I've seen many get ruined. I would tell any girl right now to not even think
about it. It's not what it was years ago and it eats you alive quicker. I do work with many girls who are not in this situation and are just like me.
It's hard when you are considered a "good girl" to deal with the new crop who have zero respect for anyone, no matter the gender or position.
I have seen many relationships get ruined because the gf started dancing. It takes a certain kind of guy to date a dancer, believe me I know. I have
had a few bfs who couldnt handle it and it caused problems later on but I quit. Right now it's very difficult to quit and find a job because the
market is so bad for jobs. My bf now is very understanding and knows it is nothing more than a job. He knows I am out there looking but it bothers me
more than it bothers him. He knows how I feel about it. I would take any job right now!
Most of the girls in the club I worked did drink and some used drugs. All of them aside from one either had kids or were pregnant. Only one of
them was in or stayed in a steady relationship and they were married but were swingers. Several of them did outside parties were anything goes
(basically they were hookers). Many were also very easy (for lack of a better word). As I said I "dated" many of them, it was not hard to get to
know them better. It was like the place oozed sex.
Yup I have worked at places with girls of all those types lol I am told I am rare. Im 32, never married and no kids. I do have a steady bf though and
I am very open that I have one. I don't lie about it because imo it is wrong. I feel like I'm cheapening our relationship by telling men I am single
when I am not. Guys always tell me they like how I was honest about it. You dont have to make guys think you are single to make money! I actually get
asked for advice a lot from guys about their gf's or wives. It is weird and some times i feel like a psychiatrist while at work but I dont mind
like being able to help out and many come back to tell me how things went and some have even brought their spouses in there to meet me. LOL So yeah, I
am not your average dancer but the things you mention do go on but not everywhere, again it is usually about location. Most of the girls I work with
are married with kids and their husbands work and I have worked places where the girls supported their loser unemployed bf's lol...
Like I said it changes everyone involved. The places stain people.
Yes it does but it doesn't have to be a bad change. It just depends on how easily influenced you are by others and most of all money. I am happy with
the things I have I don't need anything else.