Originally posted by LA_Maximus
Basically your screwed if your a guy and your marriage ends....my brothers [deleted remark] wife cheated on him and ended up taking him to the
cleaners....even tho he caught her in bed with her "classmate" from the Massage school. He has to give her a little over $2200 per/month and took
out a refinance loan to pay off the wide-body.....who never did crap to pay for that house.
Ive read all three posts and thanks for your input,instead of repeating what i have to say to all three i`ll say it here.
I can sympathize to the above quote, very similar experience to mine except i had to pay more than that at one stage.
Even tho a female can be with another partner who supports her,and receive an annual income of $35,000 plus before the non custodial parents
responsibility is reduced some what.To be paying any amounts let alone in my case in excess of $30,000 a year taken from your gross taxable income
and not to be able at the end of the year claim Dependants?
Personally before i had a larger income i could not support myself without resorting to asking for food(left overs at the end of the day)from fast
food places,pay a bit of rent and maintain a car to get to work to pay for my children.Let alone travel 2000km to see my 2 boys.
When eventually i took a job working my ring off 7 days a week the support went up and when i had enough money to travel to see the boys,i was
informed that because a few years had passed i would have to pay for a chaperon from them to have contact.Because the boys would be unfamiliar with
I have read ex wives posts in forums that acknowledge the problems their ex partners are put through and sympathize and even try and help them if they
can.These Ladies are rare i`d guess break ups are usually messy.
There have always been differences between men and women and always will be.Sadly infidelity has probably always existed as well,i would how ever bet
that its more rife now than ever.
Please understand my gripe is not one "for or against men or women"in this situation,i believe a true conspiracy exists here somewhere.I know that
there are bad husbands as well as wives its not about that.
I do believe programs run on TV especially soapies program people(mainly women during the day,though more and more soapies are on at night under the
guise of series)or educate them to think that this is a normal way to live.
Once this is seen as normal either by the man or woman your marriage is in severe jeopardy,once the wife knows that she can destroy her partner and he
also is aware of it,she can start to threaten him to make him bend this way or that or cope the consequences,which i believe is a or the biggest
factor in domestic violence.
As a man i dont have to imagine the feelings the loss of your children and assets threaten by anyone especially someone who is supposed to be your
mate for life,hence there are a lot of domestic violence cases or murders.
If the statistics are right for all western societies that 1 out of 2 marriages fail thats a lot of children that are deeply affected,and normalized
to divorce so i can safely bet that its only going to get worse in future generations.
Over the past 5 to 10 years i`ve even watched the lead up to both mothers day and fathers day on TV,mothers are commended and so they should
be,fathers on the other hand are laughed at with things like "ring or text in the most ridiculous thing your dad has done".
Take the Simpson's for example,marg is the good one,homer`s the goof.As funny as the show might be to some as it is to me,who can really say what
effect these type of shows have on growing minds.
A newish release,war of the worlds,when it was being marketed over here (Australia)they said Tom Cruise plays a dead beat dad.Not they i even saw him
as a dead beat dad,just a dad thats looked down on by his ex which went off with a doctor/lawyer? and then filtered though to his children.
I`ve noticed these things more and more through the media.
I`ll repeat Australia alone 5 dads commit suicide a day because of this.
If young adults read this thread (post)and your parents separated and your dad went off the rails in your or your Mums opinion or he did`nt see you as
much as you had of liked,take into consideration these factors that may well have been the reason for it and understand that this is not what he
wanted.I can safely say this on many dads behalf because i personally know they exist.