in a moment, I will try to explain what "conspiracy" I see......it's not targeted at men, or women, but rather something entirely different....
but first, well, I want to say something about the idea of equal pay amoung the genders and why I think that married men would make more than married
it goes back to the kingd of the castle, dad's the breadwinner, mom's the caretaker bit. well, to put it bluntly, dad's the breadwinner, for the
most part, his career will not take second place to family, will it? I mean, if litle jonny is sick in school, who's going to be the one who's
called to pick him up? I'll admit, sometimes it will be dad, but in alot of instances I bet it's mom who has to go to her boss and tell him she has
to leave, her kid's sick. when the child was concieved and when you both felt he was too young to stay at a daycare center, who was the one who
pulled themselves out of the workforce, Dad?? and, what, typically does dad do when he comes home from a hard day's work? what does mom do?? and,
who's freer to say yes when the request to work overtime comes around?
the employer will value the one that is there, that is giving the most of themselves to the job, not the one that will be torn between what amounts to
two full time jobs for the next 18 or so years!
now for the conspiracy, which, if your paying $35,000 in child support, well, it might not pertain to you. mothers generally speaking, make less than
their male counterparts, heck, they make less than their childless women counterparts....simply because that job will not be number one on her
priority list... if a family breaks up, their total expensed must at least increase by 2/3, if not more. I mean, you are now trying to run two
households, right? and well, now days, if their are very young children, that mom is playing full time mom to, well, money is probably tight
running just the one household. Which, wouldn't surprise me in the least if that was one of the reasons for the breakup.....lack of money....and the
stress, the argue and bickering that goes with it.
so, now that family, with one wage earner, who were struggling to maintain their one household, now has two households to pay for instead.....there's
no way in heck, so, along comes good ole uncle sam to the rescue. for many men, the amount of child support that they get hit with, isn't even half
of what it would take to raise those kids, remember, it goes on the amount of income earned? and well, the mother of young kids could go out and find
herself a job, but well, considering how much childcare is, it could very well be a losing venture. so, the man pays her what he can, and the women
turns to the government to provide the rest....and zap!!!...guess who is getting almost all of that childsupport??? you got it, good ole uncle
different states are run differently, and I am describing what I say happening in NY, but what I saw kind of gave me the impression that in reality,
the government wanted the men kicked out, the women on welfare. then well, there's alot of dead beat dads, that in reality aren't so dead beat!!
they have paid, but that money kind of sort of went into a black hole somewhere. in many cases, the father or the kids and the mother aren't really
communicating too well....and well, the state kind of sent paperwork to her that if the father had, he would have known something was a bit off in the
accounting somewhere, but well, they didn't send it to him. so, you have a women with records from the support collection agency saying that only
this amount here has been paid, while the father has paycheck stubs claiming that a much higher figure was paid.....unfortunately, I think the two
just are too busy bickering over weather or not he paid anything for them to actually get together and figure out that there's something amiss.
so, this is what I think the conspriracy is.....
I really think that the government wants as many people as they can possibly get relying on them for the necessities in live, not their husbands, and
heck no, definately not themselves if they are women.
and they get an added perk of draining even more money from the men, which, seems to have an uncanny knack for getting sucked into some black hole
somewhere and probably finds it's way into some black ops project or whatever...who knows....my advice would be first and foremost, really take
marriage seriously, ,make sure that you both want the same thing in your life. and that your both willing to compromise for the other, because there
will be alot of compromising for both of yous, unless of course, you have a king in your castle, then, well, I make sure that the women you marry is
willing to forfiet anything and everything for you! but, if for some reason, things just don't work out how you like, try to work it out as much as
possible between yourselves, with as little involvement from the court and government as you can.