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Originally posted by fraterormus
Since a couple more pages of people afraid of being propositioned by a gay man or a lesbian woman have sprung up I figured I'd add another thought. Something that occurred to me is the age disparity between those actually serving in the Corps and those running the Corps.
Those over the maximum enlistment age of 35 (granted, now it's 42)might not have a lot of exposure to those of alternative sexual preferences, whereas those under that age more likely than naught have known a half-dozen or so people of alternative sexual preferences.
I know that I, in civilian life, get hit on by gays all the time (being a Metrosexual who unintentionally conveys being Omnisexual probably sets off people's gay-dar on accident). It doesn't make me uncomfortable to be hit on even though they are totally barking up the wrong tree. Anyone under the age of 35 knows that all it takes is a simple "dood, I'm flattered but I don't swing that way. Sorry, you're just not my type." No feelings hurt, and one no longer has to worry about being hit on by someone who happens to be attracted to the same gender you happen to be. A proposition isn't fighting words that should make one feel threatened. If you draw your boundaries and the other person respects it, then no harm no foul.
However, to those of older generations who didn't grow up during an era of open-mindedness towards sexuality, it very well may be uncomfortable. I know my parents won't even discuss anything sexually oriented. When my father talked to me about the Birds and the Bees it was all coughing followed by "Did you catch all that? Good!" If my father couldn't find the words to talk to his own son about the Birds and the Bees without having a severe coughing fit then I suppose if a gay guy were to hit on my father it would probably make him choke to death.
Really, it does come down to a generational thing. To younger generations being solicited for sex is not a big deal, and for the most part, neither is homosexuality. You don't have to agree with it, you just learn to acknowledge, accept, and move on with the knowledge that homosexuals are people too. The only people who tend to have issue with homosexuality are the older generations who are stuck in their ways and more closed-minded (and still in denial that Rock Hudson was ever gay). In the Corps the Jarheads are going to be of a younger, more accepting generation than those running the Corps who are from an older generation with different life experiences and expectations.
Still, I personally think this whole issue could be resolved easily by disallowing the fraternization of troops. If someone solicits their fellow soldier for sex, then it should be considered Sexual Harassment, just like it is in the civilian world. That's precisely what N.A.T.O. does, so why should the U.S. Military get special treatment to either segregate homosexuals or disallow them from service altogether, when it has been shown after these past couple of decades that they are just as good at performing the duties and oaths they have been sworn to uphold just as well as a heterosexual?
"Predatory gays are disporportionately attracted to the military", Seriously? Have you got a source to back that claim up? To me, it seems like it's only your opinion which is based on bigotry towards an entire group of people based on the experience of one. You've had a bad experience, I'm really sorry you have but it's clouding your judgement on this issue here mate.
You say it won't work, the fact is gay people have fought in wars along side their straight mates for years. The only thing they are after is job security. There are Countries that already allow gay people to join up, mine included. It hasn't crushed them units.
I know people who have served and are still serving with no problems from their straight mates. Sure they take a bit of banter for it, but that's just like everyone else there.
Originally posted by lostinau
You can best rest assured that same sex attraction is overwhelmingly not a choice, is genetic and as such was intended by nature to be that way. Can you imagine how ridiculous it would sound if someone told you that your attraction to the opposite sex was a lifestyle choice that you've learnt? That is the argument that many people are repeatedly putting forward in this thread, like a clulessly ignorant broken record player.
Yes, I have a source. My experience in the real world. Not a study performed by someone with an agenda.
My experiences were not isolated, it was a real problem that happened often when I was in
But, their rights should not come at the expense of other peoples rights and they should not at the expense of the Marine Corps ability to accomplish their mission.
You are obviously from a European country and I assume you are an Englishman.
America is not like you guys, that is why we fought a war to break away from the British Empire. Maybe we won because the Redcoats were gay and most of our troops were not. The Brits did have pretty snazzy uniforms!
It does not matter what policy the rest of the world's military has with regards to gays. We have a right to make our own choice and most of our American warfighters oppose this strongly.
There you go again with the "mates", in our country a mate is someone you have sex (mate) with
Gays are attrated to the military because they are surrounded with the males they are attracted to in close quarters.
If a male is living with a female and she comes back from a bar completely drunk and passes out, many males who may not otherwise be rapists would be tempted to do something with her.
Most male on male rapes aren't commited by gay men, they are commited by heterosexual men.
Originally posted by signal2noise
Originally posted by lostinau
You can best rest assured that same sex attraction is overwhelmingly not a choice, is genetic and as such was intended by nature to be that way. Can you imagine how ridiculous it would sound if someone told you that your attraction to the opposite sex was a lifestyle choice that you've learnt? That is the argument that many people are repeatedly putting forward in this thread, like a clulessly ignorant broken record player.
Sorry, Homeslice. Unless there is proven, scientific facts to back that up, it's just your opinion. Just like the opinion of all the "cluelessly ignornant broken record players" out there.
There is no constitutional right to serve in the armed forces. Have a nice day.
Originally posted by usmc858
I wouldn't have any problem with it, they signed up to try and help their country out......unless they are there only because it's were all the hot guys are. Ewwwwlll.
Whatever craziness happens people can adapt. It is a pretty tough topic though.
---And besides, the ratio of gay people in the millitary is most likely still the same as the civilian world, it's just kept quiet.
--You guys ever see the mini-series Generation Kill, when the SHTF no one would be turning Fruity Rudy's help away. As long as he's not at your six. HaHa Just kidding.
edit on 21-10-2010 by usmc858 because: Added Thought
Originally posted by Quadrivium
Can you control your sexual interest in women you interact and work with? I'm assuming you were born straight, and am fairly sure you're not permanently obsessed with the opposite sex.
Gay people are not all sex crazed maniacs; another silly stereotype.
I did not stereotype anyone, unless it is the human race.
Most people I know can not turn this on and off like a light switch. Sometimes you're just attracted to someone else.
Now if you are attracted to someone and had to continually do the three S's with this person day in and day out, do you really believe there would be no tension?
Simple fact: If you want to serve- Then serve.
If you don't- then don't.
Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with it, so why mention it unless you want the attention?
How many straight people do you see running around announcing how straight they are? They don't because people can see it in the way they live their lives most times.
Don't ask Don't tell = It is no ones business but your own. I think you will find most people do not care about your sexual preference until you start trying to cram it down their throats.
Gay guys in the military are obviously smart enough not to do that and in all likelyhood have no interest in the other guys they spend all of their time with; it may even gross them out to check out a straight guys they work with, and funnily enough there may even be more chance of a straight guy checking them out. Strange but true.
Through education and gay friendly policies any organisations culture can change from the top down, until any kind of homophobia becomes unnacceptable and those who attempt to incite hate are dealt with swiftly. It's really not rocket science.
What is your source on that?
Giving gays a pass and blaming it (once again) on the evil heterosexual male I wish people like you would stop being so naive about the dark part of gay culture.
It was far from isolated. You don't hear about it in the media much because it is bad for recruiting, but it very much exists.
You quoted nearly my entire post but skipped over the part were a passed out Marine was raped while I was on duty.
Originally posted by adifferentbreed
reply to post by lostinau
"Through education and gay friendly policies any organisations culture can change from the top down, until any kind of homophobia becomes unnacceptable and those who attempt to incite hate are dealt with swiftly. It's really not rocket science. "
Again, why do we need education and gay friendly policies? Let's see you say hate and unacceptable, and then mention dealing with them swiftly................seems more like indocrination through fear to me. I don't have to like homosexuals, and yet according to you I should, or I should be dealt with. Hmmmm, so much for comapssion and understanding....oh, I forgot, it only applies when it comes to heterosexuals. Epic fail!
Originally posted by AP-Chris
reply to post by lostinau
Gay guys in the military are obviously smart enough not to do that and in all likelyhood have no interest in the other guys they spend all of their time with; it may even gross them out to check out a straight guys they work with, and funnily enough there may even be more chance of a straight guy checking them out. Strange but true.
Where do you come up with this BS? Yeah, As a straight guy if I worked with a bunch of fit and attractive women I would find it gross checking them out it. You are so full of crap! I worked with a hot redhead woman Marine for 2 months while temporarily assigned to headquarters battalion, I was checking her out every chance I got!
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Originally posted by fraterormus
Yet after women have openly served, it was discovered that such wasn't the case (although granted rape in the military is a *MAJOR* problem now, affecting 25% of all enlisted females).