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Originally posted by Angle
Originally posted by smyleegrl
Originally posted by Jepic
I find people that say "confidence is everything" to be quite superficial. To any genuine relationship worthy person, confidence should not even be a factor. What really matters is personality, character, and views on life. And of course physical appearance.
If you know people that reject other people because they are not confident, be assured they obviously didn't care about you in the first place.
Physical appearance is more important than self-confidence?
Naaaaah.
Ok, that is your opinion, or were you the voice of every female, which in fact could've been. Those speaking the truth and those lying actually.
There's also the fact that not all see the same in a person at once, like with Jesus, the world did not recognise Him. Quiet males, as mentioned by previous poster, are confident in the fact others just don't recognise.
Originally posted by Angle
reply to post by smyleegrl
Ok, ok, but don't get overconfident now.
What did I say??
Originally posted by Jepic
I find people that say "confidence is everything" to be quite superficial. To any genuine relationship worthy person, confidence should not even be a factor. What really matters is personality, character, and views on life. And of course physical appearance.
If you know people that reject other people because they are not confident, be assured they obviously didn't care about you in the first place. If you care about confidence, you really only care about who other people will see you around with.
"Confidence"... Such a pointless quality when it comes to LOVE.
Confidence has nothing to do with the ability to love something or someone.
CHECK YOSELF! REALITY CHECK!edit on 21/5/13 by Jepic because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by KeliOnyx
reply to post by Angle
It doesn't really work that way. Yes people can help one to become more confident, but depending on someone else to bring you from 0 just isn't gonna happen.
Thank you for being human, offcourse, this was sarcastic to the bone.
The reality of it is this, the so-called "nice guys", you know the ones always whining and complaining girls don't like them. Have only themselves to blame for their circumstances.
Yes, that is right what you say, but not true.
They talk themselves out of dating before they have even said hello to the girl. No one can help you with that. If you want to go down that road than expect to not date very often.
I don't give a thing about what you want me to expect.
Quit trying to be the knight in perpetually shining your armor waiting for your moment.
God loves my armor.
Instead go out get it battered and dented looking for your moment.
That is true.
You gain confidence by doing what you thought you couldn't do before. Even when you fail you learn at the very least not what to do the next time. The real Alpha male is the one that doesn't quit trying or learning.
Originally posted by KeliOnyx
reply to post by Angle
It doesn't really work that way. Yes people can help one to become more confident, but depending on someone else to bring you from 0 just isn't gonna happen.
Thank you for being human, offcourse, this was sarcastic to the bone.
The reality of it is this, the so-called "nice guys", you know the ones always whining and complaining girls don't like them. Have only themselves to blame for their circumstances.
Yes, that is right what you say, but not true.
They talk themselves out of dating before they have even said hello to the girl. No one can help you with that. If you want to go down that road than expect to not date very often.
I don't give a thing about what you want me to expect.
Quit trying to be the knight in perpetually shining your armor waiting for your moment.
God loves my armor.
Instead go out get it battered and dented looking for your moment.
That is true.
You gain confidence by doing what you thought you couldn't do before. Even when you fail you learn at the very least not what to do the next time. The real Alpha male is the one that doesn't quit trying or learning.
Originally posted by KeliOnyx
Originally posted by Jepic
I find people that say "confidence is everything" to be quite superficial. To any genuine relationship worthy person, confidence should not even be a factor. What really matters is personality, character, and views on life. And of course physical appearance.
If you know people that reject other people because they are not confident, be assured they obviously didn't care about you in the first place. If you care about confidence, you really only care about who other people will see you around with.
"Confidence"... Such a pointless quality when it comes to LOVE.
Confidence has nothing to do with the ability to love something or someone.
CHECK YOSELF! REALITY CHECK!edit on 21/5/13 by Jepic because: (no reason given)
Wrong if you have no confidence in yourself your personality, character and views on life are well, going to pretty much suck. Physical attractiveness will only get you so far before all your other shortcomings start coming into play. Face it if you are not confident in who you are, no one else is going to want to be with you. There is a reason pity parties are a solitary affair.
Originally posted by liquidsmoke206
Wow it's amazing how judgmental the betas in this thread are.
No wonder women don't want you, when you come off being such a hater they can tell and that doesn't translate to anything positive in their minds. They like motivated outgoing guys, and you cannot be that type of guy, at least not in the aspects that they are attracted to, without being confident.