reply to post by violet
I don't believe my remarks were irrational at all, thank you
The thankyou indicates that you were offended. I meant nothing offensive by it. On it's own, the idea that one can die at any age is an irrational
point to make when what is of immediate moral validity is not what could
happen, but what usually happens.
Similarly, one shouldn't not go driving because people sometimes die in car accidents. That would be irrational. But, one should NOT go driving if one
is drunk, because drunkenness usually increases the likelihood of getting into a car accident. Therefor the principle emerges: driving is generally
safe, whereas driving drunk usually results in serious car accidents.
To return to your statement. It doesn't matter whether or not you may die during your child's youth or early adult years, because USUALLY, people
reach the average life span of 82-83 years of age. Whereas in the case of an old person, they are already nearing that life span, so the likelihood of
them being dead or immobilized by the time their child reaches their early 20's is extremely likely.
This means that it would be immoral - if you care to provide your child with the type of environment that you most likely had - parents, grandparents,
being present at their wedding, childrens birth, etc to bring your child into a world in which they would not have those things.
This seems to be the question people are stalling at: is it necessarily better to have a parent at 25, than not? Is it necessarily better to have your
father present at your wedding, or at the birth of your children? For him to be an influence in your children's growth and maturation?
If you don't address these questions, you probably wont say outright like I am that it would be immoral. If you do, and you answer in the affirmative,
that it would be a shame for your children not to have this, than I think that indicates the morality of how you should act.
Grandparents are nice to have aren't they?
They are. Like I said earlier, one of my lifes disappointments was not having a grandfather. My dads dad left his family, and my moms dad had a stroke
a year after I was born, so I was never able to actually communicate with him.
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