Originally posted by Druscilla
reply to post by ottobot
Your arguments are sound, but, at the same time, there are a category of people who simply don't settle down until later in life due either youthful
irresponsibility (without having children), and/or a strong orientation toward career involvement such that they never form relationships that could
lead to offspring, or make time for finding a mate until they've established security and personal leisure such they feel marriage and raising
children is within their responsible means, as well as those who simply have the dumb luck of never successfully pairing off until later in
I agree, I know there are responsible people who do not have children until later in life. That's not the point of my stance. What I am saying is
that the child will be the one to suffer in these circumstances - if something goes wrong and the parent is severely disabled or dead in the child's
Putting a foot down, and stating that just because someone is older they've missed their 'chance' to procreate, is absurd.
Everyone should be free to pass on their genes with at least one child.
Sure, there's the emotional argument for the vacancy of an older parent after passing and the points you've made, but, if someone desires to
procreate, if only just one child, why deny anyone such just because their age?
Should everyone whelp out half a dozen squalling brats in their youth and live off of government subsidy just to ensure they've successfully
qualified for genetic immortality through their children in a race to beat some clock?
Yong parents can die just like older parents. Young parents are increasingly more so single parents. Young parents can be irresponsible and either
run off with different partners abandoning their previous offspring, or engage in youthful risks like drunk driving on a night out to blow off steam
away from the kids that cuts one, or even both young parents out or leaving the children to care for massively debilitated parents.
There's lots of what-ifs on both ends of the spectrum.
No one should be denied the chance to have at least one child, regardless their age, so long as they're of legal age.
If anything, people should be restricted from having too many children.
People having 3, 4, 5, 6, or even more children are a greater plague on the earth, drain on resources, contribution toward over population, and larger
example of irresponsibility than anything related to older people desiring to have a child.
No one should be denied having a child.
Too many children, on the other hand, now, that's an issue that should be addressed.
As I said in my initial post, I don't think it matters how old the parent is, as long as the child is loved. So, denying parenthood based on age is
Alternatively: Yes, there are some people who should be denied having a child - pedophiles, rapists, child molesters, abusers, people with anger
control issues, to name a few categories. This would be for the safety and well-being of the child, of course. Not that people would go in for that,
"restricting the rights of people to have kids", or whatever. But, having grown up, raising myself and several siblings and being habitually beaten
and otherwise abused by "my parents", I can say with authority that being a child of a bad person is not pleasant. I wish my parents had died a long
time ago. And, I would not wish that feeling or type of experience on anyone, especially for the sake of the "parent" to have the experience of
"being a parent".
Age, though, doesn't really matter in terms of parenting ability, because there will be responsible and irresponsible parents in any age group.
I agree with the above poster who said that most "older parents" are older parents due to an unexpected pregnancy. That is going to be the most
likely scenario. And, there is nothing wrong with that.
As I've said, I would not PLAN a child later in life because it would suck for the child. But, if it was unexpected, I would do whatever I could to
raise said child well. Just as I raise my current children. I will still be the same person who will be responsible and who cares about children,
regardless of my age.
People are not uniform, though. So to say that all older parents will be good parents is not accurate, just as saying all younger parents will be bad
People are people.
The question in this thread, though, is a moral question. It applies only to you, the person you are, and the people your potential children will be.