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its like you should have certain things before
I simply think most people who go this route either lack confidence, self esteem or simply are to shy or don't put in the effort.
If you have an asian fetish, fine, i understand looking for a Thai wife
Originally posted by Suspiria
I know a guy that ordered one but he wasn't in when the postman arrived.
Came home from work and found her behind the wheeley bins reading the new Next catalogue.
edit on 17-8-2012 by Suspiria because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Druid42
reply to post by luciddream
its like you should have certain things before
Shiny new car.
Lot's of money.
Your own house.
Ad naseum....
The mentality of single girls in the USA is focused on themselves. They want more and more, thinking that their beauty will achieve it for them. A husband? Bah, just another possession to have. File for divorce when you are unhappy, and get 50% of what he has. It's mostly greed driven. Old-fashioned values are not being taught to the youth of this generation.
Originally posted by Druid42
Or perhaps they are dis-illusioned by the mindset that females in this country have. Perhaps they still teach family values in Russia or the Orient?
Originally posted by Druid42
I think it's more of a desire to be appreciated for who you are, as a male, and not for what you have. I don't see the desire to have a foreign wife as a fetish, per se, but rather an undeveloped hope for a lasting relationship that probably has a better chance of succeeding. It brings a whole new level to the "trust" issue. A woman that is willing to leave her home country to live in the US is going out on a limb for the sake of security. Usually, initial contact is done through emailing and chatting, long telephone calls, and the man and woman both have ample opportunity to get to know one another. Is the woman sugar coating her responses to get a man in the US more interested in her? Sure. Is that part of her nature? Of course. Is she more likely to be devote and loyal as a wife? Hmmmm.
Originally posted by Druid42
I have an old friend that went the Oriental route, and today (after 11 years), they are still in love and perfectly happy. He's traveled to her homeland, tasted her culture, and they live in the US.
Originally posted by Druid42
It all boils down to what you want from life.
Originally posted by luciddream
reply to post by schuyler
Also don't forget, Women prefer to have kids with man with muscles and looks.
Originally posted by smyleegrl
My personal opinion is that the majority of men who go the mail-order bride route suffer from low self-esteem and are convinced that the only way to have a relationship is to pay for one.
Originally posted by nerbot
EVERYONE "pays" for a relationship btw. Did you mean "marriage" instead perhaps? Hang on, people pay for those too, and a wedding can be quite expensive. More expensive than two plane tickets anyway.
Originally posted by nerbot
Cut the bull, get what you want without the grief. I have 2 friends who have Indonesian wives. Young, pretty(ish) and here's the thing, they are not afraid of hard work and don't need constant attention to feel special. Their actions and gentle persona provide all the harmony any man could want. Beats the crap out of a stunner who can't even boil an egg.
Originally posted by nerbot
Most people looking for a relationship these days seem quite delusional and rarely take a look in the mirror beyond the labels and image.
Originally posted by nerbot
Why buy balls to thow at coconuts for months or years when you can buy a nice fresh one straight off the tree?
Originally posted by nerbot
Women do this too don't forget.....they "fuggly" well-off ones mostly. A singles holiday to an expensive all inclusive resort with prospective husbands employed everywhere pandering their every need as a guest. A trophy husband to take home and make them feel like the princess who has been rejected all to often.
Originally posted by nerbot
And I would have a head start with introductions from the friends I have who have already done it. Both vey happy and his new wife of about two years is about to drop their first child.
Originally posted by nerbot
Sometimes common sense prevails, why do the pain thing so many times and invest so much in superficiality when there is a simple solution for some (men and women).
Originally posted by nightbringr
But.............arent you going to pay for the wedding to your mail order bride? I doubt she can, she came from poverty.
So all you want is a woman who cooks, cleans and stays in the kitchen. Check!
If you want to attract a good partner, you will need to be worthy of them.
Yep. Women are a commodity to be bought, right? Are you from Saudi Arabia by any chance?
Huh?
And when they get their citizenship papers and learn to speak the language fluently, your friends just might be the ones who get dropped.
This is your solution for men, dont kid yourself and think its for women.
After all, why dont we see women from Canada, the USA and Western Europe signing up to be married off to good men from the Ukraine, Thailand and the like? Thats right, because the women here have much better lives than what can be offered them in those countries.
So dont kid yourself, these women would have never married these men if they werent brought up in poverty. Im not saying that they may never fall in love with these men, but while the men may have married them for good, obedient wives, these women married because they were desperate for better lives.
I have no problem with this. Everyone wants someone beautiful. The sad part is, these people still believe they deserve a 10 when the booze wears off. Joe Blow who works managing at McDonalds believes he deserves nothing less than a tall, blonde haired, CEO of a major corporation. Obviously, this goes the same for the women.
These women are invariably looking to escape poverty or hardship in their own country. Now, obviously there are amazing women to be found anywhere in the world, but i suggest that for a women at go to these lengths, she is desperate to escape her lot in life and will cling to anyone who can make things a little better. This is not love.
You may call that superfical, but women are hardwired to find providers for them and their future children, and i can understand it. That includes having good future prospects.
Originally posted by smyleegrl
My personal opinion is that the majority of men who go the mail-order bride route suffer from low self-esteem and are convinced that the only way to have a relationship is to pay for one..