After contributing to a recent popular thread concerning "princess syndrome" in the USA, i felt the need to address the surprising number of posters
there who have felt the need to find their brides through mail order services.
The main reason presented by posters as to why they would go this route was that women in the US are vain, self-centered, materialistic and every one
of them, without exeption are looking for a "Brad Pitt" or steroid monkey "Jersey Shore" type.
I disagree. I believe that men can be just as shallow as women. One only has to spend any amount of time in a North American bar to see it. The
men, looking to hook up target the beautiful girls, and the girls looking to hook up only target the attractive, fit men. Sadly, even if a man is a
six on a scale of 1 to 10, he still seems to think he deserves the 9 or 10 and the same goes for the women.
I have no problem with this. Everyone wants someone beautiful. The sad part is, these people still believe they deserve a 10 when the booze wears
off. Joe Blow who works managing at McDonalds believes he deserves nothing less than a tall, blonde haired, CEO of a major corporation. Obviously,
this goes the same for the women.
The difference i seem to notice is that once people mature, perhaps around the mid-twenties, the women seem to realize the juice junkies are great for
a fling, but eventually settle down with a stable, productive man with a good job and future prospects. The men? Still want the trophy
wife/girlfriend even though they themselves are at times a 6-7 at best looks wise, and have an average job with uncertain future.
Since there is a roughly 50/50 split of men to women in North America, not all "princesses" are going to be able to marry a Brad Pitt, since obviously
all arent Brad Pitt in either looks or future prospects. Therefore, logic would dictate they must lower their standards if they are ever to find a
mate. Now wouldnt it make sense to expect the same from North American males?
Apparently not. Rather than lower their standards, they look for a wife overseas through mail order services. Now, excuse me for being a skeptic,
but i believe people need to spend a considerable amount of time together before they can possibly know if they are compatible. And what kind of
women will look for a husband overseas? Someone they have never met before, know nothing about besides what was typed to them on a keyboard, and
must assume that they have struck out in love at home in their own country.
These women are invariably looking to escape poverty or hardship in their own country. Now, obviously there are amazing women to be found anywhere
in the world, but i suggest that for a women at go to these lengths, she is desperate to escape her lot in life and will cling to anyone who can make
things a little better. This is not love. It may one day blossom into love, but in the beginning it can be no more than a convienient arrangment
for both parties. The only exception would be if they spent considerable amount of time together first, which we all know doesnt happen or the man
simply would have travelled the world to find his foreign mate. Right? Cant afford that as a single male? Might be one reason attractive women
are turning you down. You may call that superfical, but women are hardwired to find providers for them and their future children, and i can
understand it. If you want a 9 or 10, you should be one yourself. That includes having good future prospects.
So in conclusion, if your having a hard time finding a good mate here at home, look in the mirror. There are amazing women to be had, im happily
married to one.
edit on 16-8-2012 by nightbringr because: (no reason given)