reply to post by nightbringr
Actually on this subject and going by the number of divorces going on, in all it seems like everybody has been divorced a few times, or at least once.
So in all given that I have seen and know a few people who were married if not by the whole mail order bride thing, by the more old school and
traditional ways of arranged marriages. Some did not even really choose there bride or really know them but for a few weeks or even days, and even
then there parents or somebody really did the choosing and all the work involved, even if they had the ultimate say.
Weird no doubt, but the fact that it seems to work for them and the fact that at least some of the ones I seen still are in that coupling says
something for it. In all what I am trying to say is that there relationships still is lasting and going on, while others has been stumbling and
falling to the wayside like clockwork. Which in all says a lot about something about the whole thing.
In all i got to say whatever works...works, arranged marriages are a bit different then this whole mail order bride thing, but still if you take away
all the stigma and all the things people put and place upon it, it really is not that much different then any other way people would meet or get
together. And it would still be about the same things only under a different venue. So in all it would have as much a chance at working, "as long
as there serious about it" and not some "thing" they got in there head as any other way that people go about in getting together and eventually
And this whole mail order bride thing has as much a chance at going somewhere and actually lasting then the other ways people have been going about
it, in fact again it seems judging by the number and percentages of divorces going on that, that it would be no different or no more good or bad then
all the other ways out there.
I have no problem with this. Everyone wants someone beautiful. The sad part is, these people still believe they deserve a 10 when the booze wears off.
Joe Blow who works managing at McDonalds believes he deserves nothing less than a tall, blonde haired, CEO of a major corporation. Obviously, this
goes the same for the women.
True in some respects, but most dudes I have personally known. Actually are more attracted to the more common females then the ones that are placed on
the pedestal, not saying that they would not want that or would not go for that. Only saying by what I seen that when it's all said and done, they
will and do go for the more homely ones then the whole super model thing, in fact the whole model thing is overrated and blown way out of proportions,
as most of them seem to be way more attracted to the more short curvaceous ones then the whole tall, blue eyed, blonde haired super models ones. And
that is speaking form experience and fact, I am sure if you looked around you will see the same thing as well.
And no the same does not go for the women, even if the TV says it does. That to has shown to be false and after all males and females trough out the
centuries have been instinctively been breed to look for different things in the people they mate with. And most times to me at least it seems that
they are definitely not looking for the same things. That is quite obvious.
These women are invariably looking to escape poverty or hardship in their own country. Now, obviously there are amazing women to be found anywhere in
the world, but i suggest that for a women at go to these lengths, she is desperate to escape her lot in life and will cling to anyone who can make
things a little better. This is not love.
Oh I am sure that everybody both men and women look for that which will add more to there life. I do not think it matters at all really, and if you
don't believe me. Well then put your shiny toys away leave that shiny car in the garage and get yourself a beat up dinky little one, dress as
shabbily as you can, and act like a poor broken fool. Then go ahead and try to get into the dating scene or attract a female in you local neck of
the woods. See how far that would get you.
What I am saying is that I am sure that you wont get one female to look at you given that respect, and that here, there, and anywhere its really about
the same things and all women are looking for somebody who can offer her more then somebody who cant. And it really does not matter were you are,
basically they are the same and really the only difference is in the options they have. It may not be love, but it is what it is...Merely human
You may call that superfical, but women are hardwired to find providers for them and their future children, and i can understand it. That includes
having good future prospects.
People always answer there own questions.