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Originally posted by Hawking
reply to post by evil316
I just finally decided I trust MYSELF enough to get an iPhone instead of my usual flip phone haha
Originally posted by posthuman
I read the bit about the cuban, sounds ike your daughter is trolling you now (sorry if it turned out to be a real ped I didn't read the rest of the thread). I mean if he's already revealed himself to a few of her friends then it's pretty likely they've told her about it - I'd want to get back at my stupid Dad too.
I am posting to add though, if one of my parents did this to me (confiscating my phone was fine, happened to me countless times, but the impersonation?) it would have damaged my relationship with them almost irrepairably. Very irresponsible parenting imo.edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)
edit - I'm sorry but I feel really strongly about this, I hope the OP is really sweating it and having second thoughts about what a "fun" idea this was, because honestly if I was his daughter I'd never trust him again after this crap, I'd find it difficult to look at him even.edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Hawking
Originally posted by posthuman
I read the bit about the cuban, sounds ike your daughter is trolling you now (sorry if it turned out to be a real ped I didn't read the rest of the thread). I mean if he's already revealed himself to a few of her friends then it's pretty likely they've told her about it - I'd want to get back at my stupid Dad too.
I am posting to add though, if one of my parents did this to me (confiscating my phone was fine, happened to me countless times, but the impersonation?) it would have damaged my relationship with them almost irrepairably. Very irresponsible parenting imo.edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)
edit - I'm sorry but I feel really strongly about this, I hope the OP is really sweating it and having second thoughts about what a "fun" idea this was, because honestly if I was his daughter I'd never trust him again after this crap, I'd find it difficult to look at him even.edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)edit on 22-2-2012 by posthuman because: (no reason given)
OP has been having second thoughts the entire time, that's why he made the thread to begin with. He was looking for approval for something he did he's really not comfortable with and expected to be congratulated. When he wasn't he threw a tantrum. Then he started making up stories about a Cuban guy who shares a cell phone with his mother.
Several older female members have stated now that their relationships with their parents were irreparably damaged by having their diaries read or privacy otherwise destroyed at this age. Some things your kids will get over, but a lot of the more intrusive and bizarre things they just won'tedit on 22-2-2012 by Hawking because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by 1littlewolf
You really think so? You honestly think that even if they had found guns etc in their kid’s rooms that they couldn’t and wouldn’t have gone ahead with the massacre any way?
The question of guilt — were the parents guilty? should we blame them? — led me to write a cover story for the New York Times Magazine six months after Columbine, at a time when polls showed 85 percent of Americans held the parents responsible for the shooters’ acts, and when lawsuits were being filed against the families of Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold by the families of the 12 students and one teacher who the boys killed, and the dozens more that they injured.
When I was a child I swore I would NEVER be like my parent's.Guess what happened?
Originally posted by ThirdRock69
reply to post by danwolf
Why do I get the impression that common human rights (like privacy) have been completely forgotten in this age?
Governments and parents have no hesitation in walking over anyone who can't resist them.
Its the age of the bully.
Privacy is not a human right. Parents have the RIGHT to know what their kids are doing. They can remove their child's bedroom door if they feel like it. Anything the parent has bought and paid for (like cell phones and computers, internet connections) belongs to them and they can monitor it if they feel that it's necessary.
Just like if an adult breaks the law and goes to jail. They lose certain "rights". If you ever get locked up in jail try telling your corrections officer "I have a right to privacy". They will laugh at you. They can monitor any and all communications they want and they do.
Once the OP's child broke the rules. She lost her privilege to privacy. That's the way the real world works and there nothing wrong with teaching your child that early on so they don't make those kind of mistakes when they get older.
They are NOT private messages.
Unless you want to show me the legality of it, when it comes to MY household,my devices, my internet.
Bet you Eric Harris and Dylan Klebolds parents would have wished THEY snooped a bit more,hey ????
Originally posted by xxdaniel21
it's quite ironic that this forum involves a large amount of people who are against the idea of tyranny, nanny states, police brutality, drastic "enforcement" of the law, etc.... Yet in the name of "protection", they confiscate their children's personal belongings and treat it like a childish game by posting on the internet, asking other people from other countries what to do - because this parent obviously can't instill values based on his/her own judgement.
Because texting is random,and NOT personal.
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Think about it a while, wait until your calm - then apologize to her.
I'm currently studying information security in college...
personal space isn't a phone its a bathroom with a door lock.
If you have nothing to hide you have nothing to fear.
Are you fighting for the rights of teenagers to rebel against there parents?
That's cool,cause I was a rebellious teen.
are you a parent or are you childless.
I will wait for your response before I continue.
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Till one day she was staying at her fathers house and got into an argument with him. She ran out of the house, late at night, and was picked up by two guys in a car. One of the guys got into the backseat with her and tried to rape her.
There's quite a lot more to the story that happened before that night. But I hope you will try to understand the importance of teaching your kids to be careful who they talk to online and who they get in cars with.
Till one day she was staying at her fathers house and got into an argument with him. She ran out of the house, late at night, and was picked up by two guys in a car.
Originally posted by Astyanax
Do you regard mobile phone text messages as public announcements?
Originally posted by Astyanax
You seem to think everything is a matter of law and money. We are talking about a relationship between a parent and a child here. We are speaking of a relationship that should be based on love and trust and mutual respect, not on some kind of contract with strictly defined terms and penalties. Don't you realize that to view such things as you do is both blind and callous?
Originally posted by Astyanax
Okay. Since you are apparently of a legalistic and materialistic mindset, here is an argument that may penetrate to wherever you do your thinking.
You are a member of Above Top Secret. You must have seen dozens of threads complaining about post-9/11 laws in America and elsewhere, such as the Patriot Act that allows the government to spy on people without the usual restrictions, laws that make every air traveller liable to a body search, and so on. Many (if not most) ATS members despise these laws and want to see them repealed. They loathe them because they see them as unacceptable restrictions of personal freedom. They are saying that not even the threat of more terrorist atrocities justifies the removal of those freedoms. There are some things you just do not do, even for safety's sake, because in the end there are things more valuable than mere safety.
Originally posted by Astyanax
You do not own your daughter. She is a person with rights. More important, she is a human being with feelings of her own, a life of her own and a future that you have the power to help shape or deform. Yes, there is a risk that something bad could happen to her in life. That's called life. You can't protect her from everything. You seem to think it's okay to stunt her to save her. Well, it isn't.
Originally posted by Astyanax
Besides, your offence is not just against your own daughter. You were reading the private messages of other children. Other teenage girls. A grown man secretly reading the messages teenage girls send each other, and exulting in it. How sickening and pathetic.
Originally posted by Astyanax
You wish. Try telling that to the judge the day your snooping is discovered and you are hauled into court. Ever hear of phone hacking? That's what you were doing, chum.