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Right. Her father was the sort of parent who allows an argument with his child to escalate to the point where she runs out onto the street in the middle of the night. In other words, another dad with 'Ego Prison Warden' written in six-inch letters across his sweatshirt.
The truth is there, right in front of your face, but you will not see it.
I am childless.
If you think that devalues my opinion,
Maybe the kids don't need to be taught. Maybe the parents ought to learn how to deal with them so they aren't running off in the streets at a little argument.
The worst I've had is kids wanting to ignore me for an hour, or the occasional tears and in rare case a door slam. But really, what kind of relationship do you have with your kids that they want to run off with a stranger?
That shouldn't be the case, and I really have a hard time believing it's the kid's fault.
Your argument has one big hole. This is MY household. My home, is my personal Nation, with its OWN rules.
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He was the type of parent who let her get away with anything when she was younger. He was totally anti-authority.
(Being childless) absolutely devalues your opinion. You have no idea what you're talking about. You are just guessing... and doing a piss poor job at it. You're here spouting off how you think you would have parented, if you had been a parent.
Once you're an actual parent it's totally different situation.
I have no expectations of ever being a parent. However, I have dozens of friends who are parents, and even grandparents. Not one of them would approve of your line of talk, or of the OP's scandalous behaviour. They are decent people, not snoops poring over their children's text messages.
You are simply wrong. Get over it.
Originally posted by Astyanax
Your household is part of the country you live in, and the laws of that country apply with equal force within its four walls as out of it.
As I said earlier, I couldn't care less what you do. I just feel sorry for your daughter – and for the poor children whose innocent messages you are snooping on without their knowledge.
Originally posted by Xcathdra
Legalities aside, if the parents name is on the cell phone bill, then there is no recourse for the minor who was using the phone, regardless of who is paying the bill. If a minor doesn't want to abide by house rules, then they resolve that issue when they turn 18 (17 in some states).
Other than that we should be involved in our kids lives, more so today than 30 years ago. Computers, social networking sites, text messages, emails, etc - all available on a cell phone.
As with the use of, well everything, appropriate use of the item should be required. If they can't use the device appropriately and in a mature manner, then they don't deserve the privilege of using the phone. And that is exactly what it is, a privilege, not a right.
Originally posted by ThirdRock69
you don't seem like the type who listens to reality. It's probably a good thing you are not a parent... You seem like a very defensive person with a fragile ego.
Originally posted by sonnny1
I understand WHY you don't have children.
Originally posted by doubledutch
reply to post by xxdaniel21
yes you were, or at least it looks like that:
"yet he's using his daughter's identity (his own daughter) to contact her friends."
He's not contacting them, their contacting his daughter, he is simply trying to find out if they are who they say they are.
This kind of personal attack is precisely what I would expect from people espousing the attitudes you hold. Unfortunately for the two of you, it doesn't advance your position one inch. All ATS knows what you're like now.
You have done a creepy, cruel and disgusting thing. Your daughter will remember it for ever. You have probably earned her undying hatred.
reply to post by mamabeth
So your father was into anger, big dramatic gestures and censorship, but never got round to teaching you that eavesdropping on people is wicked and contemptible.
And so the sins of the father are visited on the daughter. I understand you a lot better now, mamabeth.
They brutalized and brainwashed you into being just like them?
Okay. Since you are apparently of a legalistic and materialistic mindset, here is an argument that may penetrate to wherever you do your thinking.
Right. Her father was the sort of parent who allows an argument with his child to escalate to the point where she runs out onto the street in the middle of the night. In other words, another dad with 'Ego Prison Warden' written in six-inch letters across his sweatshirt.
As I said earlier, I couldn't care less what you do. I just feel sorry for your daughter – and for the poor children whose innocent messages you are snooping on without their knowledge.
You are simply wrong. Get over it.
Astyanax
Mind Firmly Closed
Originally posted by doubledutch
reply to post by dannotz
it's people like you I was talking about in my last posts... your a child, how would you know anything about raising children!
this is ridiculous! I bet 90% of the reply's to this thread are from kids who can obveously relate to the 13 year old but have noooooo idea about anything other than hanging with mates and chatting up chicks
kdog ignore these kids and fools, they know nothing!edit on 22-2-2012 by doubledutch because: (no reason given)