posted on Dec, 7 2011 @ 03:45 AM
reply to post by cerebralassassins
I totally agree. Two things stick out in my mind about this.
#1 People are usually paranoid about what they are guilty of themselves. I.E. cheaters accuse you of cheating, thieves have great locks, and liars
never believe a word anyone else says. He knows what HE has been doing on the internet, and automatically assumes you do it too.
#2 Since you JUST now got together this weekend, and he is already asking for changes in your personal life. He has oversteped a boundary he has no
right to yet, and you failed to enforce that boundary. BF 1 - PG 0. Good boundaries make for good relationships, and this is already starting off on
the wrong foot. Yes control freaks start small.
The proper response should have been, and still can be. "Hey John(or whatever), my personal time is just that, personal. I really don't feel
comfortable with you making judgements about my choices, or inferring that you have any authority at this point to ask me to do this. I really like
you, but I ask you respect my boundaries."
This would be a AWESOME test to his character if he has a problem with it you need to run. Run now, run fast, and run far. If he says "OK, I was
just concerned because..... but, I will respect your boundaries." He may just be a keeper. If he can't respect your boundaries you don't have a