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P.S. My wife thinks my ATS participation is silly too. I don't agree with her, she lets me be, I love her and respect her opinion **I am respecting her opinion as I type this response .: With that in mind I better get off this site and do something productive today or when my wife gets home from work she'll be P*ssed! (but still love)
Originally posted by manna2
my opinion about it being a control issue????
well after reading her posts and realizing her very very consistant values elaborated in her every post, my answer is BAH!, HARDLY!!
most people here simply do not understand one of the basics in a man/woman relationship, ESPECIALLY in a marriage, is POSESSIVENESS
It's what it is all about.
You just have to look at the popular opinion here and we get a window into why most relationships fail and marriage today is in a shambles.
It's ALL ABOUT posessiveness.
She is mine and I am hers, should be the foundation in any healthy relationship not individual liberty.
Sheesh people, this is a virtual reality message board and you guys would put this place first?
No wonder 98% have failed relationship after failed relationship.
You reap what you sow.
Posessing your mate is what it is all about for a healthy relationship.
The key to it, the trick if you will is CHOICE.
yOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO YOURSELF TO CHOOSE WELL
She has better and more consistant values than anyone I've read in all of ATS and all the pundits are questioning her?
LOL, good one!
She told you what she thought of him. It sounds like she took her time and made a responsible choice and if she is to give herself to him and claim him as a posession in a right relationship I would venture to say they have a better chance that the 98% that just do not get it.
A real commitment in a monogomous relationship with the focus on marriage or making a marriage work is ALL ABOUT POSESSIVENESS. It's the way we are hardwired.
Anyways. good luck partygirl, you have a clear and sound head on your shoulders and I like that you are willing to at least sacrifice some small things to allow your new relationship to flower and grow. And boy howdy, ATS is a very small thing!!
Hi people, I've been reading this site on and off for a few years, but this is my first time to have the confidence to reg lol.
I'm interested in lots of things, I think I'm pretty hard to classify (or I'd like to think so anyway lol) but I try to be honest with my feelings and opinions. I'm going to have some political and religious views that bother a lot of people I think, but I will try not to be annoying about it. One thing I really respect about this board is how you all are so polite to each other and well mannered. I can't tell you how refreshing that is. I'll try to be worthy of it myself.
About me...lets see...I'm 22, female, American. I'm not in America right now, though. I'm in Japan. This is also a big part of the reason I decided to post here. I really find the Japan threads quite useful and informative and I'm hoping I might be able to contribute something as an on-the-ground witness to events so to speak.
The backstory on that is that I was an LDS (Mormon) missionary here. I'm not any longer. In fact, I have formally left the church after a series of events caused me to deeply question my faith. I still am trying to find my way forward with that whole kettle of fish. Let's just say the last few months have been earth-shattering for me: First spiritually and then in actual literal fact when the earthquake hit. The other Sister who was with me (we work in pairs) returned home but for reasons I'm not fully sure of I want to stay here. I think I am called upon to help the people here. Not as a missionary but as a human being with two hands and a heart. I want to go dig ditches, wrap bandages, hand out bottled water, whatever, for the refugees, with no thought for myself or for anything. I think it is Providence that first I left the chuch and then the quake happend. The events have made me not a religious person, which was my identity before, but simply a human being who wants to respond to people in pain.
I can't go up north yet for a bunch of different reasons and actually I'm not sure I might not ever be able to. For now I am staying in Tokyo and I'm doing what little I can, which isn't much because basically I'm broke lol but I've never been happier and never felt more like a real human.
Anyway, that's what I can bring to ATS.
What else...I have strong political opinions like I said about just about everything and everyplace lol so I will need to take my mind off Japan in those kinds of threads. I also like the speculative stuff, aliens, spirituality and philosophy, all that good stuff...bring it on but be gentle lol
Hi. I'm in Japan, like some of you. But not for much longer.
If you want to read the backstory on who I am and what I am doing here you can read it here, not that it matters very much. I'm just a human being from America who happened to be here and I am still here.
Today's quake was what did me in. I thought we had come through all those aftershocks and then suddenly there was a huge quake this morning. It's never going to end, I thought. And then It's never going to end its never going to end itsnevergoingtoenditsnevergoingtoend.... And then I was crying for the whole morning.
I don't know how you people can stand it. I tried, I really did. I'm sorry, Japan. I'm sorry I couldn't do more for you. I feel sick about the whole thing.
I know there are other people on this board in Japan but I can'T remember any names or anything so if you are here could you post in this thread just so I know which members are? Or mabye somebody else could tell me.] Because I want these people to be told how brave they are. And I'm sorry I can't be one of you anymore.
I just think we need a lot more details to really give her good advice. The way this thread is going is too one sided for such little information. Especially since we are only getting her side of the story.