posted on Jun, 1 2011 @ 11:35 AM
Originally posted by g146541
You do press a good point and the childrens happiness is shaped directly and indirectly by how they see their parents.
But if a parent cannot afford their own clothing don't you think they should look for better pay rather than put off responsibility to the other
person who is not responsible to raise the other parent?
Initially in court when my judgement came down, I told the judge I simply could not afford the amount awarded.
He then told me, "That's not my problem, maybe you should look for a better paying job".
Back to the main body of the OP one thing courts do not take into consideration fully is housing.
The difference in renting a 1 bedroom or 2 bedroom is not a huge difference, however I was nailed almost full on for my ex's rent, if you factor in
all that should be.
Like I said, I did buy her a house.
Well, I am in favor of independance, that's for sure. If there is not enough money with combined income, wise person would try to cut expenses until
the situation improves. If for example parent, in this case mother, needs some decent clothing in order to try to find aditional job, you can do
nothing but agree with that kind of expenditure.
In any case, from my experience, inspite that I am a very independant person - taking care of kids puts anyone in a very difficult and vulnerable
So if a single person who is taking care of kids needs to work - he or she also needs to provide a proper care of kids while absent - which ads to
expenses. To find a nany, babisitter, daily care etc is also quite difficutl. If kid gets sick, as small children often do, you have to live from the
job, which might get you in a difficult position with employer. And so on and so forth. Not to mention that it is very difficult to balance working
hours, traveling from and to work, driving to and from school, cooking, cleaning, buying food etc.
I hope this answers your question.
It's great that you bought the house
That makes her life a lot more easier.
edit on 1-6-2011 by Douriff because: (no reason