reply to post by Gregandgemma
Its the same in Australia as well and by reading members posts within the thread says to me that it hasn`t got any better over the years.
I went through what your all describing nearly twenty years ago just after the no blame laws were dismissed (hint hint)
I been through hell and back,yet still feel the hell of it after all this time,to read what you guys are going through I had to fight the lump in my
throat for knowing full well what your going through and whats being played out on your children.Dont let my avarta fool you into thinking I`m smiling
within this thread.
I dont think there is a more evil corrupt system in the world than the Child Support System as it stands in the world today.
Not only does it generate revenue for women,Laywers and Government from males its a system to generate more males to fall into the system.Being that
the father is made to look like he deserves it,whether he does or not and push him to the brink and be labelled a dead beat dad,where many fathers
either snap and become unemployed,suicide or worse.How then will the children (mainly the son) see or learn what a good dad/husband he really was or
to become,to then fall into the trap when he`s of age,or the daughter seeing how much power the mother can have at a whim.
Without going into detail of the whole horror show I personally went through,I`ll just say what I did that made me succeed and grasp some life back,as
it may be an answer in the future to someone.
I started my own business,it was tough going for a few years but no tougher than what they put me through,I made it sucessful.The Agencies dont like
people (majority males) doing this and they fought me quit viscously in the beginning even more so than before,reason being I was taking back control
over my income, add to that the legitimate business tax perks that they now had no
control over,ie all vehicle expenses and depreciation,
equipment, phones insurances etc etc which are all tax deductable.
I always payed what they said was required and more,I never ran the business deceitfully,even though I could have easily and felt at times I should
run it deceitfully because the ex made sure I lost contact of my (big ???) twin boys practically from birth.
I also loudly echoe those saying to know completely the women your getting involved with and condoms is a must,even check the packet for tampering if
your unsure,the risk is far to great.
I wouldn`t wish what I went through as I know your going through on anyone,except those who designed it and allow it to continue.
I hope this helps someone and I`m a u2u away for a chat/vent