posted on Jun, 1 2011 @ 07:21 PM
Well to respond to the father who has 3 kids, you made the choice to have children, then you need to step up and take responsibility, I agree with an
earlier post that said that you probably aren't paying close to 50% of your children's daily needs.
I am a single mother, I have a wonderful 6 year old, and I did get child support for 5 years, then just one day he up and quit, he also up and quit
talking to her. All because he didn't understand that life is no longer about what we want but what our children need, and what is best for them. He
couldn't get his own way so he decided to punish his child and make her question why.
There are times its been tough and that money would have come in handy, but you know I don't want nor need his money, and it will be too soon if I
ever hear from him again. I could be nasty and go after him, and where as he is an American, they could go after him harder then if he was Canadian,
but why bother, if he wants to be childish and punish his child, then he's not good enough to be in her life anyway, and she is far better off
As for making things even, when you only have your children on the weekends thats not sharing 1/2 the expences or half the time. If you stopped to
calculate the amount of food they eat every day, the clothing they need every season, or in my daughters case shoes every couple of months, The
money's needed every week or two from school for one function or another. Not to mention sports and equipment, because what parent wants their child
to be a couch potato all the time, plus birthday parties they get invited too, need I continue on.
My daughters sperm donor actually told me once that he couldn't afford to send her anything for her birthday, my response was neither can I, but
someone has to give her a birthday, If I don't do it, then who will, it has to come from somewhere, which usually means that we the parents
(responsible ones) need to sacrifice to give it to them no matter what. Kids aren't that fussy when they are little a card that says you remembered
is often enough, but not calling or sending anything is not acceptable, no matter how broke you are.
To all the men out there who are complaining about having to pay child support, I have one answer, then keep your pecker in your pants as my mother
would put it, to the Women out there who have to pay child support, keep your dang legs closed, if you don't want the responsibility.
To all the deadbeats both men and women, because I know there are both out there, Grow Up, take responsibility, and life most certainly is not about
you anymore it is about the children.
To those single parents out there barely getting by, I commend you and you need to be proud of yourselves, and what you have chosen to do for your
children, They will remember what sacrifices you made for them one day.
May God bless all good parents.