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In this day and age one sex has more options? Have men and women only recently developed different sexual organs?
Originally posted by mayertuck
I personally feel that if a man or woman engages in any behavior that has a known consequence (even with protection in place) and that consequence happens they should face those consequences. As it relates to the tread, yes both should face those consequences, sadly this day and age, one sex has more options in not facing the consequence of their actions than another, and that shouldn't be.
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
By aborting she IS accepting responsibility. What is so hard to comprehend about that? Does it rile you that her taking responsibility by abortion is "cheap" compared to the man taking responsibility by paying child support?
Originally posted by mayertuck
I agree its is a consequence, but it is a consequence that she chooses to do to not accept responsibility. Yea its not cheap, but compared with 18 years of child support is definetly the cheaper option is it not?
So if I am reading you correctly, you are saying that she is being responsible by getting an abortion because its birth control?
I was under the impression the aim of birth control was to prevent pregnancy in the first place. If the aim of birth control is to prevent pregnancy then how is getting an abortion truly facing the consequence of having sex?
edit on 17-9-2010 by mayertuck because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
In this day and age one sex has more options? Have men and women only recently developed different sexual organs?
Originally posted by mayertuck
I personally feel that if a man or woman engages in any behavior that has a known consequence (even with protection in place) and that consequence happens they should face those consequences. As it relates to the tread, yes both should face those consequences, sadly this day and age, one sex has more options in not facing the consequence of their actions than another, and that shouldn't be.
You realize abortion has been an option for thousands of years, do you not?
reply to post by GradyPhilpott
Except when sex is involved, no sane man would give anyone the power over him that a woman gains when he fathers a child out of wedlock.
Originally posted by Jenna
Irrelevant and extreme take on my post. Do not put words in my mouth.
Again putting words in my mouth. One in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, often before the woman even realizes she's pregnant. Thus the reason for my thoughts on the matter. Until the heartbeat is detectable a woman can miscarry and not have a clue that she was even pregnant to begin with. And even after making it past the first trimester you can still miscarry.
I said that a woman seeking an abortion was preferable to her abusing and torturing an unwanted and unborn child. Not that unwanted children are better off dead. Don't put words in my mouth..
Which means absolutely nothing to the millions of children who are too 'old' or too 'damaged' to be considered for adoption and didn't make it into the system when they qualified as a baby. You seem to be operating under the assumption that all children in the system make it there when they are newborns and that is simply not the case..
Weekly blood tests to check for drugs in the system? Seriously? You weren't talking about tests the doctor runs for health reasons, you were talking about blood tests just to check for drugs. Major difference between the two. The former is part of a pregnant woman's care to ensure the woman is healthy and the pregnancy is progressing well. The latter was proposed with the intent to punish.
Originally posted by 2weird2live2rare2die
men should have just as much of a say in an abortion as the women. it may be growing inside of the woman, but it is just as much the mans child. if a woman wants to abort her child and the father does not, then she should just have the baby and let the father take care of it. i don't see the problem with this concept...
Originally posted by Hefficide
Men already have reproductive rights.
They have the right to keep their pants zipped if they can't step up to the plate.
They also have the right to get the snot kicked out of them by other guys if they fail to exercise their first right.
edit on 9/16/10 by Hefficide because: missed a few words in all the excitement
Originally posted by bluemirage5
reply to post by xyankee
If pregnant women chose to abort should be forced to go full term and hand the kid over to the father who does want it? Statistically, how many fathers be like that out there? A tiny handful perhaps?
Now how many non-custodial fathers out there pay 50% of the day to day living costs of their child from birth to 18 years of age? How many non-custodial fathers out there pay zero and avoid it like the plague? Keep in mind more than half of these children brought up in single parent homes come from broken homes so they were once wanted by their fathers.
No man has the right nor would he ever be given the right to force a woman to go full term - period! In saying that, no woman has the right to force the father of her child to spend time with it but he DOES have the responsibility of paying reasonable child support whether he likes it or not and most men don't like it and all men complain no matter how much he pays - they even complain when they don't pay it.
And these so-called men's rights movements expect the women's rights movement to help them out? Pffffffffff
Grow up, be a man, take responsibility for your own actions, and stop blaming women every time something goes wrong in your lives.
In my opinion, if a man does'nt pay child support, I think jail time is too soft but forced in to hard labour jobs instead.
Takes two to tango!!!
When did male contraception become 100 percent effective? Only then can the argument you put forth be reasonable and if contraception were 100 percent we would not have eight pages of discussion.
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by 2weird2live2rare2die
men should have just as much of a say in an abortion as the women. it may be growing inside of the woman, but it is just as much the mans child. if a woman wants to abort her child and the father does not, then she should just have the baby and let the father take care of it. i don't see the problem with this concept...
You may not see the problem with this concept but put simply, as natural as pregnancy is, women still fear it. If it was not for medicine then the death rate would still be considerate. A lot of the time after giving birth women’s body’s don’t return to how they were and there skin can be riddled with stretch marks. I feel that although it takes two to tango, if the woman has to carry the child to term (And she went about using contraception and still got pregnant) then she should have the final say over an abortion.
As for the actual topic, If the male in question can prove he used protection (Which could be difficult?) then he should have the right to decline fatherhood. However, i can only see this as being very messy and focused more on "can he prove he used contraception?"