posted on Sep, 16 2010 @ 07:32 PM
reply to post by badgerprints
I can totally relate. My first wife and I had a son. She left me for another man when my son was an infant and the two of them married. I only saw my
son one time after they married, even though I paid child support for over ten years. I literally bankrupted myself fighting for my visitation rights.
I'd understand more if I were a monster or had done something horrible. But I wasn't and I didn't. Her strategy was simple. She moved out of state and
then kept up the argument that she feared that I was capable of violence. Not that I had been violent... Merely that she feared I could be. And that
was enough to keep the courts confused and involved.
Unlike you, I did sign that piece of paper. After over a decade of fighting. And I have regretted it every since. At the time I thought that taking
away the support was my last and best tactic. It wasn't.
There's a happy ending, in a way. Now that he is twenty years old, I have met my son and speak to him on occasion, on Facebook. He doesn't know I am
his father, and believes his step father is his biological father. He's been told, by other members of his family, that I am an old family friend.
That is the deal I struck for the "right" to interact with my child.
So I know and understand your pain very vividly.
My experiences as discussed here are part of why I feel the way I do. It was never about money to me, it was always about my son. And that is how it
Regarding the concept that women can abort and men have no say.... Well that's a topic for an entirely different thread.
*ETA* If this all seems somewhat contrary and irrational, I don't mind. To be honest half the time I can't make sense of it either. Feelings are like
that sometimes - easily felt but impossible to explain.
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