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Originally posted by andy1033
reply to post by seataka
Well i never look into somones eyes, and i mostly talk truths all the time, so thats one stat that is wrong.
Originally posted by valiant
Always had a problem with looking someone in the eyes, especially if it's a girl I like.
Strange thing is though, if I am angry at someone or arguing with them I stare at there eyes and it doesn't bother me at all.
[edit on 28-10-2009 by valiant]
The feeling I get when people insist on constant eyecontact is as if that someone reached down into my guts and turned them inside out, I get dizzy and overly emotional.
Originally posted by IAmD1
Originally posted by valiant
Always had a problem with looking someone in the eyes, especially if it's a girl I like.
Strange thing is though, if I am angry at someone or arguing with them I stare at there eyes and it doesn't bother me at all.
[edit on 28-10-2009 by valiant]
That's exactly how it is for me. The only person I can look in the eyes for extended periods of time is my child.
I am also an introvert and extreemely shy, although I've trained myself to act quite the oposite. You'd never know except for my lacking in eyecontacting skills. LOL
The feeling I get when people insist on constant eyecontact is as if that someone reached down into my guts and turned them inside out, I get dizzy and overly emotional. The emotion depends on the person who's looking at me. I also stop hearing what the person is saying and instead I get a system overload of info and internal conversation about the 'eyecontactee'. A conundrum I find is that it's also very hard to concentrate on what someone is saying when looking away. I'm just not a very good listener these days
S&F for interesting topic
Originally posted by tgidkp
if you intend to look people in the eyes as a tool of interpersonal relationships, the #1 trait you MUST practice is:
HARMLESSNESS.
it is the first thing that people will read from your eyes. harmlessness implies a neutrality in every aspect of being.
the only way to accomplish harmlessness is to be totally and completely and genuinely neutral. you cannot WANT anything from them, and also you cannot NOT WANT anything from them.
harmlessness is established by setting up the self, YOUR-self, as the authority in all matters. thus, you can represent yourself appropriately, socially, and not feel threatened by others' points of view. when you do not feel threatened, you will not threaten others.