Looking people in the eyes @_@, page 1

reply to post by Stillalive

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That is so spooky I have found myself going through the same thing,I chalked it up to a sense of low self esteem due to current job situation and financial troubles.I'll be curious to see what comments you receive here.

reply to post by Lil Drummerboy

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I don't understand your question, but I do understand the laws of physical attraction and there is no way you can "make" someone like you. A person, especially a woman, likes you or she doesn't.

reply to post by Lil Drummerboy

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must admit I never have shook hands with much strength, although I could, ish. Never liked showing anyone what i've got (not sure I ever had anything mind) I may have read too many louis l'amour novels when I was young.
best regards english dan

reply to post by Terranis

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A firm handshake is a sign of confidence. you don't have to compete to who is stronger.

reply to post by EMPIRE
[more) the question wasn't about attraction. but why exactly are you not looking your person in the eye.

reply to post by Lil Drummerboy

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At the other end of the scale some of my friends and business associates try to break my bleedin fingers when they shake. Or it could be me being soft.

Originally posted by Terranis
reply to post by Lil Drummerboy

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At the other end of the scale some of my friends and business associates try to break my bleedin fingers when they shake. Or it could be me being soft.

Well, no judgment here but I say yeah ya might have lady hands. nut up a little.

reply to post by Stillalive

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Always look a person in the eye! If you do not some will think you are weak and or are hiding something.

After a long time spent in hospital I found it difficult to look someone else in the eyes but I soon realised that as my self esteem got better I found that I had to look people in the eye. If you avoid eye contact you give others of a less then friendly disposition an excuse to avoid giving you the respect that all people deserve.

In my younger years I once had a revolver jammed into my guts in a minor argument in a pub and the man I was arguing with wanted me scared, and I felt scared. However I looked down at the gun and then looked at him and said 'Cool gun are you selling it'? Actually it was a garbage looking silver thing and I did not want to buy it but that was not the point.

I felt like being physically sick but from remaining calm and most importantly by looking the man in the eyes and showing him I was a sentient being like him. The situation was defused with a burst of laughter because we made long eye contact and also because I remained calm.

It was only afterwards that I allowed myself to be sick.

That has been my experience at least that you are meant to look a person in the eye and hold it but not so much that you end up staring.

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