I am not reading every post!
...okay, I will but later
Dave, your story in the OP sounds exactly like something I would have done myself. For some reason I can recall just about every moment when I was a
teen and had done something I kinda regret now...like making a fool of myself when asking if KFC sold live chickens at thier drive through...idiocy at
Now though, I could validate what I ignorantly did as just being a jester for my friends. Nothing that I have ever done was dangerous, nor annoying
against another person. If someone older had a problem with something I did, my father taught me to listen because I just might be missing
something...so I still follow those words today.
So about a month ago my wife and I decided to go window shopping at the stores a few cities away. My 6 month old began to cry and I knew it was time
for a bottle. I had my wife pull in to the Walmart so her and my oldest could finish eating and I could feed the baby. I prepared his bottle, got
out of the car, and walked around to sit in the back with him when I noticed 4 teens (3 guys, 1 girl) halfway across the parking lot. I would
estimate the average age of all of them was 15. Suddenly, one of them said something, then reached over and grabbed the empty rack that holds the
shopping carts and pulled it right in the lane. I waited a second and thought he might just be trying to show out, but would put it back.
Unfortunately for him, this was not the case...
I yelled to them as they began to walk away: "What are you doing?"
Guy: "Oh, we were just playing."
Me: "I suggest you put it back before someone hits it."
Guy: "Okay, we will"...as they began to walk further away.
Me: "Do it now before the police get called and you are arrested for distruction of property."...as I began to walk towards them.
Guy: "Yeah, well, MAKE ME!"
The funny thing is this is how I always get into trouble. I believe what I am doing is morally right and with my best judgement, but often others
disagree. So I make it over to them and step between the retarded teen and the rack. In a calm manner I ask the guy "Why not just put it
back...someone can come along and hit it." Obviously I had offended the teen in front of his friends, and no sooner than I had gotten the words out
of my mouth, the teen decided that I could use a good knuckle sandwich. Swing...
At this point you are probably thinking that I got nailed, or just beat him down...but he is a teen. No matter what I believe is morally right, I am
usually wrong, and I would be morally wrong in this instance had I made this physical on my part. I kinda knew it was coming when I walked over. But
it's times like this I am glad that my father taught me Martial Arts. The best advice he ever gave me was "The best way not to get hit is not to
. So I would have to say that my quick side-step, and the kid hitting his face on the rack without any help from myself, actually got
his friends involved with helping him up and putting the rack back in it's proper place.
So I look at it this way: There have been times when being aggressive in a situation helps out because it let's everyone understand your
frustration, and often will scare people's stupidity away for a brief moment. However, there is also times when one can calmly try to handle
something that is wrong, and have the problem solve itself. While the above situation worked out for me, someone still got hurt.
Had I not gone over, or just waited till they were gone and moved it back, would it have changed anything? Yes.
But why should stupidity be left alone and not brought out in public view?
(Yeah, I know, long story for something that happened in under a minute)