reply to post by Bunch
well my mom was a democrat but she was a fundie too. bible thumping, old fashioned, dyed in the wool, christian. i got birth control pills as a
single woman although i never did use them, because i couldn't bring myself to disappoint her on that. she had warned me repeatedly how dangerous it
was, and showed me examples in real life that drove home the point. so i think the most certain way, is to do a thorough job of explaining it to your
kids. i repeated it with my own including my sons. so far, so good.
what i told them was -- do NOT impregnate or seek to impregnate a woman/girl unless you are ready to marry her, because:
1) it's a loaded weapon. think of it that way.
2) you could potentially ruin both your lives or create a situation that will slow your forward progress so dramatically, it will take a great deal of
additional effort to rise above it
3) you risk her life the moment you impregnate her because delivering children is dangerous for the mother. (Example given, we lost a beautiful
adopted native american niece on hubby's side of the family when a one night fling ended in her being pregnant, and him not wanting the baby. she
gave birth anyway but died during c-section when amniotic fluid got into her bloodstream).
4) you'll put her and her family in the uncomfortable position of trying to figure out how to resolve it, which can have very many negative
ramifications.
5) she'll be stuck between deciding life and death decisions and that's not what you want to do to someone you like or love unless you are married
to the person and have their vows as confirmation of their willingness to work to raise any subsequent children.
6) even if you use birth control, if either of you have an STD, it'll get passed on, and will negatively impact not only that person's life but the
lives of their future children
etc.
i made sure they realized how selfish and self-centered it was to even consider having sex with someone that wasn't willing to marry them or they
weren't willing to marry first. got no business doing the wild thang with people you don't intend to be with for the rest of your life. and if you
intend to be with them for the rest of your life, you better make darn well sure that's who you want to marry. these easy come, easy go marriages we
see now days is a disgrace on all of us, including christians.