The Online Persona verses the Real You, page 4
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reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 03:35 PM by The_Alarmist2012
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
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true to your word - you have no profile

can I ask you an honest question then?

what are you after exactly?


Quite simply, I am seeking answers, and I have many so far.

Primarily, for now the cause and effects of an "online life" verses a "real life" on the human psyche.

I also find this site captivating, would not change a thing, particularly this forum board.

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reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 03:50 PM by Spiramirabilis
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well - for what it's worth - a great thread - if people will participate - because the concept of "real us" vs "avatar us" is just to good to pass up

and I'll tell you one thing about the me here that is different from the flesh and blood me outside - I write better than I speak

ok - 2 things - I am also less sarcastic here

in my life - among my friends and family - sarcasm is a form of affection

but sarcasm doesn't translate as well in this situation - so I'm more careful about what I say and how I say it

so you see - it is me - but a slightly different me


reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 04:42 PM by metamagic
Originally posted by The_Alarmist2012
How many of you would step forward in a group of people, friends, peers or coworkers and freely express your thoughts or views on the topics you get involved in here at ATS?


The problem is that I play a number of different roles that depend on the world I am traveling in: the business community, the academic community, the arts community, my more alternative and perhaps fringe associations. In order to be effective in each of these worlds, I have to wear a persona that is acceptable and understandable to them. Each persona is really a part of me, sometimes exaggerated, with the other aspects of my life repressed at that moment. My academic colleagues would be baffled by my spiritual and esoteric interests and pursuits, my business associates would be shocked by my academic research, and so on.



Are you the same YOU here at ATS that you are in the real world?
Can you answer the above honestly?


Yes, I just don't bring all of me to ATS. And honestly


How many of you have or would actually share everything you do here at ATS with your family and friends?


For my friends, those who were open minded, yes. The academics are the worst, so probably not. My son and daughter, yes; my ex-wife, no.


Is it possible for a person to have two completely different personalities, one that exists only online here and the other in the real world?
From a psychological aspect, is it healthy to have an outlet for an alter-ego who is not as reserved, one that can say and do things the other will not?


Only if they are a great method actor. Any on-line persona I believe is actually a part of our own personality that we anthropomorphize. Having such proxies for ourselves is very healthy when we are prevented for other reasons from speaking with our own voice, however there can be an unhealthy aspect to this when a person cannot express themselves without the proxy. Remember, we all tend to "step outside" ourselves if we are in a place where we are not known, so... this is a natural thing.


Do any of you have alternate user accounts which you use to express other things you would not with a primary user account?

No


Thank you for a wonderful post. I'm going to read what others say now.


reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 04:44 PM by Spiramirabilis
reply to post by Illusionsaregrander



link?

I'd be real interested -

I speak well enough - but think faster than I can organize into words - so - I can sound like a raving lunatic if I don't pace myself

but when I write - I have a chance to organize my thoughts

I also have some kind of reading disability - not dyslexic - but it's very difficult for me to read - which is why I type the way I do

in small easily digested chunks :-)

but I am a very visual person - so I'd be interested in info on a connection



reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 04:57 PM by Illusionsaregrander
reply to post by Spiramirabilis



Here,

en.wikipedia.org...

It was originally posted in Whaaaa?'s post at the bottom of page three.


reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 06:19 PM by The_Alarmist2012
After reading through the wiki page linked in this thread I searched for some other sources of information related to this subject and found the following page interesting and more informative:

It's well known that people say and do things in cyberspace that they wouldn't ordinarily say or do in the face-to-face world. They loosen up, feel more uninhibited, express themselves more openly. Researchers call this the "disinhibition effect." It's a double-edged sword. Sometimes people share very personal things about themselves. They reveal secret emotions, fears, wishes. Or they show unusual acts of kindness and generosity. We may call this benign disinhibition.

On the other hand, the disinhibition effect may not be so benign. Out spills rude language and harsh criticisms, anger, hatred, even threats. Or people explore the dark underworld of the internet, places of pornography and violence, places they would never visit in the real world. We might call this toxic disinhibition.


Much more of that page here:

www-usr.rider.edu...

This paragraph in particular:

The disinhibition effect is not the only factor that determines how much people open up or act out in cyberspace. The strength of underlying feelings, needs, and drive level has a big influence on how people behave. Personalities also vary greatly in the strength of defense mechanisms and tendencies towards inhibition or expression. People with histrionic styles tend to be very open and emotional. Compulsive people are more restrained. The online disinhibition effect will interact with these personality variables, in some cases resulting in a small deviation from the person's baseline (offline) behavior, while in other cases causing dramatic changes.




Fascinating subject, I know I have learned a great deal here and hope to hear from more members of this community.




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reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 08:43 PM by ~Lucidity
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i'm exactly the same. the major difference is that i usually sit up straighter and am not wearing pajamas when i talk to people in real life.


reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 09:08 PM by enjoies05
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Kinda the same.

I don't speak to as many people in real life as I do here. But I'm pretty calm here, and that's the same as in real life. I try to help people here, and I do in real life to.

But I do things on here that I wouldn't do in real life, like join a debate, write a story, have a conversation.

This is my only account.


reply posted on 18-7-2008 @ 09:53 PM by The_Alarmist2012
reply to post by Ian McLean



The truth can be liberating, there is no reason to feel inhibited here.

You could be on to something, many people may not be willing open up about their online persona.

Who are you really?


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